- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2014
Alright, so this past friday was our 3 year anniversary. FI has done precisely one thing regarding it… which was to LOOK at something. TO BE FAIR, we both kind of forgot about it until last wednesday and we spent friday flying to minnesota for a thing we had already planned to go to. However, I spent thursday getting things done. I got him a really nice cappuccino machine and a little stuffed owl (he collects owls) and a silly little dice game (he collects board games) and a card. I set the coffee machine up and put a big red bow on it. Super great. I don’t drink coffee and he had wanted a cappuccino machine. Definitely not at all for me.
Anyway, so we flew into minneapolis and we stopped into tiffany’s to get my ring cleaned and, while we were there, we looked at one of the keys. It was like 3000 and like 3/4 in long lol so he didn’t buy it obviously, but no big deal. He had specifically stated that we were looking because of our anniversary, but we didn’t look at anything else in any other store for any anniversary reasons. We did go into this home goods store…. don’t remember the name… to get a housewarming gift for our friends in MN, but that’s all. Okay that’s fine maybe he’s waiting to get back home or something.
So we had a very fun time at our thing (it was a board game convention… nerd alert) and flew home. Our flight was delayed so we didn’t get home til 6 am and we had lots going on yesterday. Fine. But anyway, I saw that one of the keys I liked wasn’t nearly so expensive (more to the tune of 225-450 depending on the size), so I let him know that was the case. He says, “okay” and then starts talking about something else.
So, thus far he has not gotten me anything. Gift… flowers… a MOTHER F***ING CARD. Hell, two pipecleaners twisted into the shape of a heart. God damn.
And I feel bad that I’m so upset, but he ended the weekend by saying, “Man, what a great anniversary weekend.” But we didn’t DO ANYTHING FOR OUR ANNIVERSARY. It was all something we did because we thought it sounded fun and I’ll be damned if it gets repurposed into an anniversary plan.
To make it all worse, my love language is gifts. Are there things I like more than others? Yes. Would I be happy with a rock he found outside that he thought reminded of me? If it was really sentimental for him? Okay sure.
But nothing? NOTHING? Not to mention that his is acts of service and he requested that I ask every day “What can I do for you today?” which usually doesn’t bother me but I am just SO PEEVED about this.
Don’t get me wrong, I love him and I know he loves me and he’s usually very thoughtful, but UGH.
Thoughts? Advice on… whatever?