Post # 92
I completely agree that most couples want a symbol of engagement but at the end of the day a lot of couples forego that aspect of a wedding. I know a few women who were never proposed to with a ring. They just had a talk with their partner, decided they wanted to get married, and did it. Their symbol of commitment and everlasting love is their wedding ring.
You don’t need an engagement ring to be engaged.
The aspect that I agree with the OP about is that many couples, including my SO and myself, have discussions about wedding plans, but we are not engaged. Sometimes we talk about how we would raise kids but we aren’t TTC either. We’ve talked about some of the venues around, about budgets, about what type of food we want. Yesterday we had a cupcake vs. cake debate (I won with cupcakes, lol). At the end of the day you can plan your wedding to great detail without being engaged because it’s all just talk. IMO where it turns into a “well you might as well be engaged” is when you start talking to vendors and buying supplies and stuff like that. If you go to the venue just to look around out of curiosity, fine. If you go there and talk to a vendor and put down a date, I’m sorry, but my view point changes to “well, you might as well be engaged”, even if no ring is involved.
Post # 93
AS for everyone else. I didnt start my vent trying to start this drama, whoever said that is way off base. It was a simple vent. not a personal attack on anyone of you. but somehow this has become an attack on me. Weddingbee was supposed to be a supportive site where everyone was welcome to come discuss and enjoy in a non-judgemental state. thanks for proving otherwise. According to your posts, im some crazy b*tch thats trappng her BF into a wedding. Most of you make me feel like i need to defend my acions, I dont. Dont like what I vented in the ORIGINAL POST, then dont reply, go about your day, its not my fault yall got so fired up.
Our venue that we visited happened to be our favorite salmon fishing lodge, we just never saw the grounds because we were too busy on the water so we went to check it out and spend some time on the water. My SO and I have had very similar talks, and I agree with your post completely. We talk about all sorts of details, and in no way have we spent a dime on wedding stuff.
Post # 94
That would be a really cute personal touch to put in the wedding. Maybe even serve some sort of Salmon at the wedding.
Wait… I’m planning your wedding WITH you…. we might be engaged to each other!! *nervously backs away*
LOL. Just having some fun.
Post # 95
oh there will be Salmon at the wedding, its my favorite food ever! haha and in risk to being too public with my wedding ideas, i want to take a pic of SO and I catching some salmon, and holding our catch in the fishing boat on the river. i think it would be fun and a psudo TTD session. 🙂
Post # 96
There is no right or wrong in life. One person’s right is another person’s wrong. You don’t have to worry about what other people think. It’s not important because it’s just an opinion. The only thing that matters about YOUR life and YOUR relationship is what YOU think.
Post # 97
You’re full-on planning a wedding, but getting mad when people assume you’re engaged? Smh.
Just don’t talk about your plans to people, then.
Post # 98
This thread is closed at the request of the OP.