(Closed) Vent: other people telling waiting bees that we're engaged!?

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 92
662 posts
Busy bee

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@HisNightOwl2014:  I completely agree that most couples want a symbol of engagement but at the end of the day a lot of couples forego that aspect of a wedding.  I know a few women who were never proposed to with a ring. They just had a talk with their partner, decided they wanted to get married, and did it.  Their symbol of commitment and everlasting love is their wedding ring.   


You don’t need an engagement ring to be engaged.


The aspect that I agree with the OP about is that many couples, including my SO and myself, have discussions about wedding plans, but we are not engaged.   Sometimes we talk about how we would raise kids but we aren’t TTC either.  We’ve talked about some of the venues around, about budgets, about what type of food we want.  Yesterday we had a cupcake vs. cake debate (I won with cupcakes, lol).  At the end of the day you can plan your wedding to great detail without being engaged because it’s all just talk.  IMO where it turns into a “well you might as well be engaged” is when you start talking to vendors and buying supplies and stuff like that.  If you go to the venue just to look around out of curiosity, fine.  If you go there and talk to a vendor and put down a date, I’m sorry, but my view point changes to “well, you might as well be engaged”, even if no ring is involved.

Post # 94
662 posts
Busy bee

That would be a really cute personal touch to put in the wedding.  Maybe even serve some sort of Salmon at the wedding.


Wait… I’m planning your wedding WITH you…. we might be engaged to each other!! *nervously backs away*


LOL.  Just having some fun. 

Post # 96
75 posts
Worker bee


There is no right or wrong in life. One person’s right is another person’s wrong. You don’t have to worry about what other people think. It’s not important because it’s just an opinion. The only thing that matters about YOUR life and YOUR relationship is what YOU think.

Post # 97
2246 posts
Buzzing bee

You’re full-on planning a wedding, but getting mad when people assume you’re engaged?  Smh.

Just don’t talk about your plans to people, then. 

Post # 98
23585 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

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