Vent / Pity Party /Jealousy

posted 4 weeks ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

Totally understandable how you are feeling and I actually relate to working full time in a ‘people’ oriented career and being really peopled out after work hours. 

I highly recommend online dating, actually. I met my SO on OkCupid and I’m very glad I did as we connected on a level that was beyond looks and small talk/surface personality. We quickly found that we shared the same values, intelligence, sense of humour, hobbies, interests. It also put a lot of pressure off my time – whilst we had really cute dates after we got to know each other, instant messaging and stuff takes the pressure off having to be ‘on’. You can be cooped up at home and comfy on the couch but still having a conversation. 

Trust me, relationships are meant to be easy and they will come. Lots of people have met their ‘one’. Take the pressure off yourself, enjoy whatever you want to do, take yourself on an awesome holiday for example. When you least expect it you’ll connect with someone by just being you. 

It is a really good thing that you are not trying to be more like Kate. When you meet your match you should just be yourself! 

It could also be a good idea to use something like Tinder for friends if you do enjoy going out to bars and dancing. Mixing it up and going out with a group of people who can take you to new places is a good way to find men (and also have a nice time and enjoy your late twenties!) . Men aren’t home with cats and crafting, and there are often some good ones that are out with their mates trying to find a special someone wink You have to be on the lookout for those just trying to pick up for the night, but a few of my friends met their significant others on a night out. 

Chin up xxo

Post # 3
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143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

P.S – for the holiday blues I guarantee it will lift your spirits if you volunteer or gift to those who need it most. Whilst this is a time for celebration it is also a dark time for many. Community events like carols by candlelight are also uplifting too. 

 

Post # 4
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149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - England

dsaasd :  I think it can be healthy to throw a pity party for yourself every once in a while. So if you need to wallow, go ahead!! Just make sure you dust yourself off and go out there again and be fabulous! 

Post # 6
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114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

If you need to have your moment to feel sorry for yourself, do it. Afterwards, chin up and take care of yourself. Never wonder what is wrong with you when guys opt for someone else (been there, trust me). Thinking “What is wrong with them?” works best. You listed your great qualities and achievements in life so far. Keep looking ahead. As PP said, online dating is always a great option. It’s how I met my SO. Ironically enough I wasn’t looking for a LT relationship at the time specially after having JUST gotten out of one, like yourself, with I guy I thought I would marry.

Have your pity party. Eat your comfort food. And it may be hard afterwards but gather that confidence and carry on!

Post # 7
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Worker bee

I would recommend online dating… you won’t need to chase anybody and your date will be showing up to see specifically you.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m sure you’re beautiful.  Some of it might be the vibe you give off. You might be giving guys the “don’t approach me” vibe without realizing it.

I often do it without knowing. I figure it out when people sometimes say, “what’s wrong?” Or they remark that I look sad or mad when I’m not. 

So just think about your vibe and make sure it’s not shooing men away.

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