(Closed) VENT!!! Pray for me: I need it!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

why do you care if she wears any shade of purple?  shes the mother of the groom so you shouldnt have to dictate her dress colours to her i would have thought – am i wrong???

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@eloping: um, I think it would be really weird for the MOG to match the bridesmaids. . .and I *do* think that is one thing a bride is allowed to ‘suggest’ to the MOG.

to the OP: that sounds AWFUL! she calls you at 6:30 AM? and then hangs up on you? what a piece of work.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree. Another shade of purple would be nice. But then again, she DID ask so you should be able to tell her. I don’t think you were dictating, since she asked.

A call at 6:30- is a call for attention, if you ask me. She just wants attention. Geesh, most women grow out of that way before 55.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

First step: Don’t answer the phone at 6:30am on your day off.  If you feel compelled to, once you’ve figured out that no one has died, tell her you’re busy right now and will call her back later.  It sounds like the two of you have enough history that it’s difficult to have a conversation with her at any time, but certainly you don’t need to have it when you’re asleep.

Have you suggested a shopping trip together?  It might be painful for you, but she might love the attention, and it could be a much more productive way of dealing with the issue (you could suggest other colors you see there instead of just saying no to everything she says).  Plus, you could schedule it at a time when you’re awake.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with @hellorebecca all the way.  

I’m sorry you are going through this. Hopefully you can stay strong; weddings have a tendency to bring out the darker side of people.  

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My best advice for you considering I don’t know the entire story; would be the following: Make sure you acct as the mature person while standing your ground and also make sure that you discuss this or any other matter with your future husband and have his back.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I will definitely be praying for your patience and for her…

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@eloping: I agree.  I don’t think it really matters what she wears, and a complimentary shade can only look good in photos.  I’d be more concerned about her wanting to wear a shade that DIDN’T match, but I guess that’s me?

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Call her back the next day — at 6am. Wink Tell her you’ve thought it over and would love her to be happy in a dress of any color and, if she wants to meet you somewhere to try on dresses, that would be a blast. Wish her a good day. Then, hang up and take a deep breath. Whatever she wears, leave it to her to explain herself. If she matches the bridesmaids, she’s the one that will look the fool — not you. Likewise if she shows up in tie-dye or pearl. What matters most is that you look fabulous, and you will, and that you are happy, because it is your day and you deserve it. 😉 Hang in there!

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Honestly she sounds like a nightmare she knew full well that she had chosen inappropriate colours. I dont think a shopping trip is a good idea, you could look at your relationship with her as a funny joke to keep your friends amuzed It reminds me of Mother in Law with Jennifer Lopez and Jane Fonda lol.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@cornflakegirl I totally agree!!!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Let her wear whatever she wants. Let her look like a fool if she decides to try to match either your gown or the Bridesmaid or Best Man gowns. What MOG does that?

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