Post # 1
I know people are just being enthusiastic and happy for me, but I think I hit a breaking point today.
1. TOUCHING THE BELLY
Excuse me, but unless I know you–and by “know you” I mean, you’re a good, good friend–you should not be touching me. Yes, belly might be the residence of another being at the moment; it’s still my belly.
2. COMMENTING ON HOW MY BODY HAS CHANGED (iin any other way than “you look fantastic!” or some derivation thereof)
I KNOW that my hips are wider. I KNOW my ass is bigger. And I sure as hell KNOW that my breasts are vying for their own zipcode. Just tell me I look great and I’m glowing and all that.
3. BELLY OR BABY SIZE COMPARISON
“Whoa! You’re only 21 weeks?” OR “Really? You’re 21 weeks? You’re barely showing!”–I’ve gotten both–is annoying. I’m 21 weeks and the belly is what it is, okay?? I’m not interested in how I stack up with your wife, sister, friend, mother etc.
And yes, I know that people are just being nice, and because I smile and nod to their faces, I’m now venting on WB. Sigh.
Post # 3
HAHAH! When one of my friends was pregnant she was pissed at how people felt like they had the authority to tell her what she should/shouldn’t be eating/drinking in public.
ie: “you really shouldn’t have that cup of coffee”….”isn’t that sandwich too spicy for a pregnant woman?”
All of this from strangers…she handled it better than I ever would!
Post # 4
@BothCoasts: AMEN. That’s all lol.
Post # 5
@Miss Orchard: Oh don’t get me started on the food crap! I’m tempted to go get a fake crack pipe and break it out whenever someone questions the morning latte, saying “Oh. Well, if I can’t get my morning jolt from coffee, I guess this will have to do.”
@Running Elley: Thank you!
Post # 6
i feel you. at work today, i was bending over looking for a chart and the girls were all excited to run up and whisper to me that they can see my baby bump! um, i am 15 weeks and don’t have a baby bump, what you were pointing you was my normal belly hanging out over my pants because i was bending over! cuz guess what? when i stood up, it disappeared.
Post # 7
I’m absolutely terrified about strangers touching me. I’m not even officially TTC yet, and I’m already getting anxious! I have a plan though: when I see someone approaching me and it looks as though they might touch me, I’m going to announce loudly that I have diarrhea. If that doesn’t work, I don’t know what will!
Post # 8
I’m with you. I don’t mind people touching the belly if they ask first, but the things that people say just blow my mind.
My favorite was an ice cream scooper who reminded me that chocolate ice cream has caffeine in it that could “hurt” the baby. She pressed on and on and I eventually talked to a manager in order to get my order satisfied. It was nuts.
Post # 9
@DaneLady: The Demetri Martin defense! I love it!
” If someone asks if you’re ticklish and you don’t want to be touched you should something like ‘I have diarrhea, now don’t touch me cause you’ll make it come out…and yes I’m very ticklish’.”
Post # 10
@BothCoasts: bahahaha this made me do a spittake!
Nothin like a fake crack pipe to put asshats in their place!
We aren’t TTC yet, but I have some really floaty tops for summer. I have a scar on my back and when it gets hot it just itches and feels awful. They have like scoop necks/halters….but then no discernable waist and they just sorta float.
Anyhow, I love my flowy tops and I have a back problem. So I’m constantly holding my back while wearing a flowy top, and I get asked whether I’m having a boy or a girl, how many weeks I am, etc. Dude. I am not even pregnant. I don’t even have a stomach! Yes the girls are a little showy, but I’m not even 5 feet tall so they’re just trying to make sure I don’t get stepped on!
WHAT IS WITH PEOPLE?!
Post # 11
I saw my best friend/MOH a few days ago for the first time in two months. (I am 33 weeks pregnant and actually carrying on the small side). She asked if I could still drive?!! She clarified that to, “can you still fit behind the steering wheel AND reach the peddles?”. I took a few deep breaths and asked her to NEVER say such a thing to a pregnant woman – just tell me I look great, nothing else.
Post # 12
I remember the touching belly thing. I hated it. Why would a perfect stranger think it’s ok to put their hands on me just because I’m pregnant? It happened to me a lot. That was the worst, it freaked me out!
Post # 13
When this happened to a friend of mine, she reached out and put her hand on the other person’s belly in return.
Let’s just say she made her point.
Post # 14
ooooooo i have heard it all lately…. im 32 weeks 1 day and im pretty short so my belly really really shows. im pretty much a bowling ball, but so far i’m all belly.
MULTIPLE strangers have said: (and uisually scream it so everyone around can hear to)
is it twins? are you SURE its not twins, maybe one’s hiding. (this i get all the time!)
– your huge, i cant believe your not due til July.
-and one of my PERSONAL FAVS. my daughter looked your size when she was ready to deliver..
people these are things NOT to say to a pregnant women.
Post # 15
I never never never never ask a woman about her baby/etc unless I KNOW she’s pregnant….and I work in Labor and Delivery, so I can tell pretty quickly!
I should probably wear a sign when I’m pregnant that warns people about getting slapped if they touch me without asking…..lol
Post # 16
@stargirl34- I love how people think that they can comment on a woman’s weight or large size just because she’s pregnant. It’s still rude!
Luckily I haven’t had strangers touch my stomach only a few really close friends so I don’t mind. But I hate hearing, “Wow your baby is going to be huge” or “My x didn’t show until she was much further along”. What if I don’t have a huge baby?! And thanks for telling me I’m a house!