(Closed) Vent season: BRIDESMAID drama!!!!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

what a crummy situation!

she is clearly NOT participating in your wedding in the same selfless manner as you did for hers. honestly, my wedding motto – drama free is the name of the game.

she has two options, suck it up, or act like a spoiled brat bow our gracefully.

good luck to you!

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I kind of went through something similar, one of my friends assumed she was a bridesmaid and she absolutely hated my best friend, who I had already chosen. I thought maybe it would be fine, but every time I talked to the mean girl she couldn’t have a conversation with me unless it was about bashing my friend. I ended up telling her she couldn’t be in the wedding and that it was stressing me out, and then she flipped out saying she would never ruin my day and that she just wanted to stand up with me… but she sure didn’t show it. After that I was deleted from her facebook and we’ve had one discussion since, basically closing the door on our friendship.

I think you may have gotten yourself in a pickle. Did you know this girl hated your friend? I knew from the beginning that I was going to be in trouble, but I didn’t choose her, she chose herself. I totally agree that its your wedding and that you should be able to choose your BMs, but this is probably going to cause some serious problems if your other friend can’t get over herself. I’m sorry she’s being so selfish but did you already know she could be this petty?

Post # 5
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37 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

it’s not like you’re asking her to be best friends with your new bm. it’s your wedding and as a good friend of yours, she should know you’re going to be under a lot of stress and not add to it. it’s not that hard to be at least pretend-civil. 

Post # 6
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5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Why does she hate the other Bridesmaid or Best Man so much? I think you handled the situation well.

Post # 8
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514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I also wonder why she HATES your other Bridesmaid or Best Man so much. Did she do something really horrible and having them in the same room is really asking a lot of your friend or does she just not like her?

Bottom line: Any friend who makes you make a decision should be the one don’t choose because a real friend wouldn’t ask you to decide.

Post # 10
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160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@ForeverGandJ:

amen.

newly engaged and about to perhaps enter a similar situation… i am fully prepared to give an out. like “if you can’t handle it, if it’s going to be too much/hard for you, it’s ok. you won’t hurt my feelings, but there will never be a discussion about it afterward should you accept.”

curious: at this point, what is your preference? she sucks it up? or have you such a bitter taste about it, you kind of wouldn’t mind if she chose to not renew her Bridesmaid or Best Man contract (so to speak)?

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

She seems to only be thinking about herself, its your wedding and not hers, and its very selfish of her to try to make you feel guilty about your Bridesmaid or Best Man choice. If it bothers her that much she should step down.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with a lot of the PPs, she is acting immature. I mean, how much time will she really have to spend with this girl? A real friend would suck it up and deal with the few days that she will have to see her and not add more stress to your life OR she would quietly step down if she really could not bear to be in the same room as this woman.

I don’t know the whole story, but the reason you gave for them not liking each other does not seem like enough of a reason to really HATE someone. At least, not enough to make this much drama.

I’m sorry you are dealing with this!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

She really sounds just like my ex friend, she claimed to be the greatest friend that ever lived, and if you did one thing to cross her (like standing up for someone else instead of taking her side) she cut you off like that. I always knew our friendship would end over something stupid, and it did. Sorry you’ve got a drama queen on your hands :

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