(Closed) Vent season: BRIDESMAID drama!!!!

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 47
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1267 posts
Bumble bee

Yikes!  She should suck it up but I think you should realize how very sucky, annoying, frustrating and difficult that is to do. 🙂  I’ll help by sharing, lol!

I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man for my oldest sis’s bestie.  My sis was the Maid/Matron of Honor.  This other idiot, who neither of us can stand due to her ridiculous antics and scary, single white female – ish stalking behavior, invited the bride to be over to her place, had lit candles and music and a ‘congratulations’ card and expressed that she reallllly wants to be a bm.  Puke.

So, being that the bride is a total mush that can’t say no, she said ‘ok.’ and immediately called us apologizing.  My sis was furious and (she’s pretty outspoken and bold so we’re used to it) let the bride and me know that she really hates this girl and that a lot of the fun of being in the bridal party had now been sucked out.  And really, it was true.  Instead of being this awesome, fun, memorable time for us it was a chore and a constant fight to get anything at all done.  If we liked a dress, she hated it.  If we thought a venue would be great for the shower, she said ‘ugh, no’.  If we thought something would be fun for the bachelorette party, she thought it was too expensive (uh, sweetie, if you can’t afford it don’t badger the bride into picking you).  She actually ended up not going out with all of us after the comedy show in NYC and just kept saying ‘ I just can’t ‘.  I offered to pay and she said it wasn’t money, she was just really busy and other nonsense when she’s totally not.  Anyway – we were both good and sucked it up and faked having fun the whole time through anything that included her but it sure made the job a lot less fun and meaningful when you’re trying to defend yourself all the time.

IN the end, the bride wished she hadn’t said yes to her being a bm.  Yes, the wedding day is to celebrate you but don’t assume your friend will only be miserable with this girl for a couple of hours – as a bridal party you spend a lot of time together planning.  She sounds like a drama queen, but maybe she’s just upset?

Post # 50
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296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Funny that she says she doesn’t have time for HS Drama, but sure seems to be going out of her way to make time for it.

Ask her to step down.  People who truly support you don’t act like this. 

Post # 51
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293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m going through the same thing. im just hoping she will step down..

Post # 52
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41 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

That’s pretty “small” of her to act that way… it is your wedding and you have the right to put anyone you want in your wedding party. 

Post # 55
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1267 posts
Bumble bee

Yeah, she sounds a bit dramatic, lol!  If they don’t have to get together to plan a bridal shower or bacherlorette party and share finances, choose a place, venue, party/caterer/food, dresses – what the hell is she complaining about?!  She’s getting off easy just having to see this girl on the actual wedding day!  Geez.  We had to spend months with this crazy psycho, get together all the time to go over party planning for the shower and the bach. party, get together to get dresses, find favors for the parties, choose cakes for parties, go shopping for decorations/venues….it was a nightmare!

If I could have just seen her on the big day I would have been pleased as punch!  I think its better you got rid of the drama before it started.

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