(Closed) vent- she’s driving me nuts!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

“I appreciate your suggestions, but I’m going to do my wedding my way. Thanks!”

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

That is super annoying! Maybe have your mom say something to her? Just gently telling her how excited she is to be helping you plan your day and that you both have already nailed things down for the most part.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yeah I would definite say something and delete all the comments from my facebook and tell her you don’t want planning ideas constantly posted on your social network and if you need ideas or have questions you will ask her. Thanks but I got this you’re not really helping unfortunately your kind of just overwhelming me with opposite ideas then what I am planning. Or since it’s your mom’s friend you could always get her to talk to her she may be able to do it more gently. 

Post # 6
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11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I feel you! As soon as we got engaged, Future Brother-In-Law and his wife were all over us. “Well if you want to wait a little longer to get married, [their son] can be your ringbearer!” No, sorry, no kids in the ceremony, not to mention, our wedding is 18 months out from our  engagement. They’ve brought it up several times, even though I’ve very firmly said NO. Then they’re all over us about, “Oh, who’s doing your ceremony? You should use [minister who did theirs].” No, thank you, we’re having a civil ceremony. “Oh, well, are you sure? Because he’s great!” Yep, we’re both Agnostic, and you two are, too, so yes, we’re having a civil and we’ll find our own officiant, thank you. “Oh, well, [the wife]’s uncle could do it, he’s an Athiest and got certified to perform weddings for his friends!” Great, thank you, WE WILL FIND OUR OWN OFFICIANT. I don’t even want his wife there, much less any of her family. Now we’ve got FI’s stepmom posting passive aggressive Facebook statuses because they ASSUMED that FI’s younger half brother was going to be a groomsman (nevermind that Fiance has a billion close friends and lots of male family members that he’s really close to and had to cut his GMs way down already) and found out yesterday that he isn’t. 

Weddings always seem to bring out the worst in people, don’t they? 🙁

Post # 7
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3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@vorpalette:  I agree, that’s why I didn’t tell anybody but the people whom I knew wouldn’t be so presumptuous.

Post # 8
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11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@strawbs:  I’m really glad that I’m mostly keeping our plans under wraps. I’m normally a blabbermouth when I get excited, but in trying not to annoy/inundate everyone with wedding-related things, I’ve not really said much. I’ve gotten a lukewarm reaction from a few people on what little I have said, as well as some drama, so I’m rolling my eyes and keeping my lips sealed.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@beenonymous765:  Stick to your guns.  We got bullied into some things, including photographer, and am now a proud order of an album that made me cry not for the reasons it should :-(.  I’m just glad that I refused point blank being led to the church by bagpipes, even though it did cause a big rucuss with the ILs.

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