(Closed) [VENT] Should I disinvite her? Also, how do you do that?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
4324 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@mnp:  This is a small spat that you shouldn’t disinvite her over. No matter what, she’ll always be family.

Post # 5
9548 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t think this is worth disinviting her. It would be more drama than it’s worth. Just get your hair done somewhere else and don’t let her bug you. Ask your friends and family to quit telling you what she says. Not worth the drama.

Post # 6
314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mnp:  See, now you’re including information that Jules didn’t already have… but I still agree with her, she is family. Don’t disinvite her. Trust me, 10 years from now people won’t remember that she was rude to your family, they’ll only remember that you disinvited her to your wedding, unless they were directly involved. I’ve seen it happen first hand…

As for the wedding gift… “I find out hair trial needs to be paid for which I did because I thought it was so nice that they will do all our hair.” So did you pay for the hair trial or did you assume the hair trial would be free?

So the Boyfriend or Best Friend said he was only going to do your hair after all, and you end up saying no thank you to the gift. From their perspective it could seem like you declined the gift because he wasn’t good enough and/or he wasn’t giving you a “good” deal. Not saying you DID, just saying it could be viewed as such.

Post # 7
11270 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

your cousin’s bf was possibly insulted for you decline the “gift” to do your hair.  don’t disinvite her.   just let things settle down.  don’t add more fuel to the fire.  as pp said, she is family and it will probably be forgotten in a few years anyways.

Post # 9
314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mnp:  “Oh, I didn’t tell him, “No, thank you” after finding out that he was only doing my hair.  I only made the decision not to use him because I asked him to reschedule my hair appt. on my wedding day and he he never replied back.  I gave him a week to respond and got nothing.”

I figured you didn’t, because it seemed like there were other factors in your OP, but they could be looking at it that way. Sometimes people don’t realize where they dropped the ball and just think back to the most recent thing that “could” be.

Post # 10
188 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’d let her know that she’s welcome to come with a girl friend but you don’t appreciate her bad mouthing your family when they have nothing to do with this incident concerning her bf that flaked on you. If she continued to make a scene at the wedding then you would kindly have her and her friend escorted away from the party. It’s her call on how mature she’ll be acting.

I’d tell it to her face calmly and preferably with an audience of other family members. But that’s just me and my no nonsense attitude ^.~ It might cause more trouble XD

Post # 11
1527 posts
Bumble bee

She seems to like drama, so just don’t add more fuel. 


I’m sorry she’s causing stress for you, though. It’s probably for the best he was so flaky then. Now you can stress less and have someone less involved get the hair right.

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