(Closed) VENT shower gifts

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I don’t think you are horrible at all. I totally understand why you may feel disappointed…it does not make you a bad person! When I go to a shower, I know I am expected to bring a gift, not just show up and eat the food and hang out. I can’t believe people came and did not bring a gift….WTH?

My shower is in two weeks and NOTHING has been purchased from the registry. My friend however, who’s shower is weeks after mine has just about everything from her registry purchased. I totally get where you are coming from.

Maybe people are saving the registry for wedding gifts….? I guarantee you will get a ton at the wedding! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Wow…who the heck doesn’t bring a gift to a bridal shower?!?! Are you sure some gifts weren’t shipped to your house instead of people bringing them to the actual shower? I don’t think it’s greedy to expect at least token gifts at a gift giving occasion. I’d be disappointed too!

Post # 6
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2999 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

That does suck! I’d be disappointed. Hopefully you get some stuff at the wedding.

@Legallyblondiebride:  My friend’s shower had a lot of stuff still ‘on’ the registry. We found that people bought it elsewhere (instead of getting it at BB&W they went to Kohls) or that people acted dumbly like me, went online to see the registry, picked out what we wanted, bought it and never marked it off of the actual registry.

Post # 7
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1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@jpalm13:  That makes me feel a little better. I am really worried about it and I hate that I am ๐Ÿ™ Sorry for the thread jacking OP!

Post # 8
Bee
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

It may be because it included guys. Guys don’t really get social niceties, and haven’t been exposed to showers before. They probably looked at it as more of an engagement party.

Were more of your gifts from women?

Also, did the invitations make it clear it was a shower? Who hosted the event?

Post # 9
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5183 posts
Bee Keeper

Who the hell doesnt shower the bride at her shower!? I would be pretty peeved too… im sorry ๐Ÿ™

Post # 10
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774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If i go to a shower, I bring a gift no matter what. Even a bottle of wine, picnic package, some nice lotion and candles, or something the couple can both enjoy. I think/asume alot of people figure if they are coming to your wedding, they dont need to get you a shower gift too.

Post # 12
Bee
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

@mrskmk:  Hmm.  Well yes I would assume you’d get half the gifts, because they’d be split between couples.  (similar to wedding gifts). 

Only other thing I can think of, is that if you invited the man (because more closer to him), and he brought his gf… and the gf didn’t really know it was a shower.  Then maybe he wouldn’t have brought a gift, and she didn’t know. 

Other than that, couples showers aren’t super popular.  People may have not understood what it was / maybe the oldschool types were upset it was being hosted by your Mother?  

I’m not sure.  Just trying to put out possibilites there. 

Either way: sorry you didn’t have the shower you wished for. Even if you didn’t get a pile of gifts, you still said you had an awesome time. Take that for what its worth!  And if you got about 250, with an average shower gift being $40…. you got about 6 “gifts” there.  So, if you add your 6 monetary gifts, and 6 physical gifts.. you got 12 gifts.  There was 30 people, 15 couples.  Just about everyone gave you SOMETHING right?  (How many monetary gifts did you get?) 

I think maybe you had this idea that you’d be getting a KitchenAid, or Hotel collection towels, or something lavish for the shower gift.  Maybe showers just aren’t big in your area, and you’ll get really nice wedding gifts! 

Is there the option for someone to host you a females only shower?  

Post # 13
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1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I feel like you and I are the same person! I too was a bit underwhelmed with the presents I received. Not that I TRULY cared…but I seriously received 9 cake pans and 5 bottles of wine. I dont drink wine that much and I registered for ONE cake pan…not 9! So I’ll be returning a few of those of course but yea I get what you’re feeling! I also didn’t receive any money. Just cake pans and wine that I won’t drink (ho hum!)

Post # 15
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1866 posts
Buzzing bee

@mrskmk:  Wow I can’t believe some people didn’t bring ANY gift.  That is really rude. Were they young guests who perhaps didn’t know proper etiquette?  Either way, that is really disapointing for you.  I think it’s just best to go into these situations (weddings, showers, etc) having low expectations for gifts.  I would still send people a thank you card, even if they didn’t bring a gift.  You can thank them profusely for attending your shower – and maybe they will feel guilty and send one later!

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