(Closed) Vent: SO hasn't even been saving for a ring :(

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Find someone who deserves you. What a dick.

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Fiberoptic:  Just read through some of your previous posts. Sorry hun but i think that he’s had more then enough time to propose if he had really wanted to.

He was ‘scared of commitment and the thought of forever’ only a few months ago. 

He still wouldnt get engaged when he wanted to buy a place with you 

He is spending money on himself yet cant propose with a inexpensive ring

So sorry but i would have to pack my stuff up and move on

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

If being engaged isn’t about the ring, I don’t get walk dates.

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I say you really need to leave. I read your previous posts and it sounds like he keeps putting it off. 

Post # 21
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Fiberoptic:  Fuck. That. Douche. You pack your stuff and run away and don’t look back!

You DESERVE someone who is dying to marry you!

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon:  setimes for the girl it isn’t about the ring, but sometimes for the guy it is. and sometimes the guy uses the ring as an excuse not to propose.

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Have you actually talked ot him about the ring vs the engagement? Some guys really don’t want to spend that much on a piece of jewelry, but it doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t want to get engaged/married….

Post # 24
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Helper bee

@VikingPrincess:  +1

OP, you’ve been more than clear with him. And he’s clearly not *too* concerned about the financial aspect if he’s buying all that stuff for himself, yet can’t buy even an inexpensive ring for the woman who he’s supposed to want to dedicate the rest of his life to. He seems very selfish. And honestly, he might not take you seriously after you didn’t leave the first time. I’m not saying that you did anything wrong AT ALL- I might’ve done the same!! But even though he gave you a new deadline that presumably worked for *him*, he’s not doing shit about it. It seems like he doesn’t care. If he wanted this to happen he would work harder for it. I think that you’ve been more than reasonable with this guy. You deserve so much better!! Please stop wasting your time with this guy. I know it’s easier said than done. But the guy who deserves you will go to the ends of the earth for you.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I would absolutely leave him. This is a sign of things to come. He does not place you as a priority in his life. You are 34, time is ticking. Don’t waste it with this guy.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@Fiberoptic:  I think he’s made it perfectly clear where his priorities lie, and it’s not with you and your relationship. Move out!

Post # 27
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Bumble bee

@Fiberoptic:  My SO wasn’t saving for a ring after discussing our deadline. It took planning a move and me picking a ring for him to get the job done. I told him I wanted to be engaged before we moved away (from our home town). I found a ring that I liked and I knew he could afford with his tax return.

He bought it and proposed a few months later.

But before that he had been buying himself things- video games, hunting clothing and accessories, etc.  

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m sorry that you are experiencing this, but hopefully it doesn’t end up in walking away. Of course I don’t know your whole story, but if I were in this situation, I would sit down with him and really express the concerns. Tell him that you are worried and that you don’t want to be strung along waiting for something that may never come. See how he reacts and go from there. He may just need a kick in the butt to get the ball rolling.

Good luck

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