Post # 32
I’m not much of a planner – just managed to sign contracts with my last two vendors the florist and makeup artist 14 days before my wedding (it wasn’t entirely my fault since our original venue closed and we had to change our wedding date and all of our vendors and our original florist is sick and unable to work). Anyway, even though I am a lousy planner and wouldn’t need an exact timeline until a month or so before the wedding I would really need to know the details of a changeover on a ship. If that didn’t work, your cocktail hour would go on forever and your guests would get hungry and cranky. So I think it is perfectly reasonable to investigate that very far in advance, and if you were asking for too many things your planner should have just picked the most reasonable and researched them and explained why it wouldn’t be helpful to research the other things. She could have given you sample timelines from other brides you could look at and decide if you liked. If this is a small deposit, I would recommend walking away.
Post # 33
As an event designer/planner I say you are awesome having everything timed out! Of course the week of events should remain fluid and can be changed as needed, but the fact that you have a plan is ideal!! I am usually uber excited by all of my brides’ big day. I honestly think it’s because I love my job :D. The questions wedding mediator gave you were brilliant!!! If you have paid her a deposit, is it a large one? I honestly think that if you aren’t getting along now and you have a bad taste, then it may continue and this is the most important day of your life. Perhaps it’s time to look for a coordinator whose personality jives with yours better. Perhaps you can check with the yacht’s captain. He may have worked with coordinators that are more familiar with your venue.
Good luck and happy planning!!
Post # 34
As a 9+ year wedding photographer I can tell you that good planners are very hard to find. Most are difficult to work with both for the bride and the vendors. Does the venue not come with a manager or coordinator? Usually those people are more helpful if you just need help on the wedding day. Your venue size is fine and it is great that you are an early planner. You need to surround yourself with can-do positive people. This coordinator seems unprofessional and I doubt her experience is more that a few weddings. She would not last in the industry.
Post # 35
Bah. Crazy coordinator. I would dump this person and hire a new one a little further on.
Post # 36
I went down to the dock to talk to the boat captain last Thursday to talk through some of my concerns and to make sure I didn’t need to change my venue. Not only do I feel confident that everything will work out, but they were so supportive and positive, that I don’t think I really need a WC at all. So I probably jumped the gun on that decision, but lesson learned, right. 🙂 Now I’m trying to figure out the best way to let the one I have go….it’s not the easiest thing.