(Closed) Vent – Something happened last night and SO won't talk about it

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

There’s really not a lot you can do about this until he comes around. I usually let Darling Husband know “I know I can’t make you feel better, but it hurts me to see you like this. Help me understand.” He usually acknowledges his grumpiness & opens up. If your SO is not that kind of guy… its really out of your hand.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Give him time.  Some people need a few days to process their emotions.  Don’t take it personally for now and resist asking him about it again.  He’ll come around.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Ugh I hate it when this happens. I just wish he would open up so that I could try to make him feel better. PPs have it right though- give him time and hopefully he will open up and come out of his grumpy mood.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@stuckinwonderland +1

 

If you guys usually have pretty good communication when he’s ready he’ll talk to you about it. If not, you’ll have to prod him more to find out what happened.

BUT either way, give him some time.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

oh Darling Husband is sometimes a bit like this. He will say “im incredibly angry, but its not about you” but thenm he needs to be left alone until hes ready to talk about it. and if i ask him anything like “do you want dinner” he replies in monosyllables

i used to take it personally until we had a great talk about it, and he said that he needs time to process it and it avoids the temptation to take it out on me/pick mini fights about other things just cause he’s in fighting mode. and he says he doesnt want to do that. maybe your SO is same way

give it a day and try not to pressure him.and when he calms down have a good talk about why he’s mad and what you both expect when the other is angry/ for me, i asked that he just say something like ‘i love you and im not angry at you but i need to be alone right now” so i dont stew

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Deejayelle:  Give him space. I would let him know that I am there if he changes his mind and wants to talk and then tell him I love him very much. Then I wouldn’t ask about it again. Hopefully he will get his head out of his ass and come around. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I agree about giving him space, but if he continues to act moody with you I would just say “I understand you are upset about whatever happened and you don’t have to talk about it, but please don’t be disrespectful toward me when I’m not the source of your anger.” It’s not fair for you to have to deal with an attitude just because he’s upset.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@ThatOneGirl9613:  +1. OP – if he dosent come around on his own soon and keeps taking it out on you then you should definitely tell him straight up how it is making you .

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