(Closed) Vent- Stepmom V. Mom ~ Sorta Long

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it was okay until the last sentence of the second-to-last paragraph.  Did you already send the email?  If you did, maybe you can call her and sort of cut it off at the pass.  Tell her you wrote the email as a knee-jerk reaction without thinking and ask her to delete it and talk with you instead.

Post # 4
637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Overall I think the email is fine.  You want everything lay out in advance than dealing with the drama down the road.  But I agree with PP, I think you can take out the last sentence in that paragraph and still get the message across.

Are you closer with your mom or stepmom?  Even if both relationship is equal, I would still prefer to have my own mom putting on the veil. 


Post # 5
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Hmmm… I think the email is good as far as you standing your ground. I’m not sure I would’ve called her childish, though. I think from what you’ve explained you are doing your part to include her and are really taking her feelings into consideration. It appears that she’s probably still very sensitive and insecure about her role in this family and in you and your sister’s lives because of what happened at your sister’s wedding. As long as you know you’re trying your hardest to include everyone in the family and make them feel welcome and special/important, then you’re really doing everything you can and you shouldn’t take on their issues. If they still feel excluded or upset at that point, it’s their problem and you move on with your fabulous new life with FH. 

Also, my hairstylist put my veil on. Food for thought lol. 

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