(Closed) Vent: Mismatched bridesmaids are not for me

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

I’m sorry, I can’t help you. But I do love your vent. Why does your sister not want to wear A-line dresses? Is it possible for you to tell them what you have in mind and see if three of them can come up with a solution so they can feel like maybe they made the choices (I know it’s only your sister you have a problem with but still…) Good luck though…time’s running down for them to make their dress choices.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

People are suggesting it because that is an easy way to stop the drama. 

If you don’t want mismatched bridesmaids, then you don’t have to have them.  But, if you have strong personalities, some drama over the dress is unfortunately possible.

 

EDIT: I just read your post again and it seems like you know what you want and the sister is suggesting other stuff?  Game over.  You picked the dress and most people know that when you agree to be in a bridal party, your attire might be dictated. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I didn’t want mismatched dresses. I didn’t even take my girls shopping. I picked a dress and said “hey, does anyone hate this because otherwise I’m ordering it and you are all paying me back”. My suggestion is to pick a dress and tell your sister that you’ve made your final decision. She’ll get over it.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you really want the bridesmaids to match, that is what you should have. As long as you are keeping the price reasonable for them they should be willing to go along with you.

What color and fabric are you interested in? Also what price range are you looking in? Short of floor length?

Maybe I can help look for some options.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

What dresses are you looking at right now? An A-line is universally flattering so I don’t see what the big deal is either.  Have you looked at anything that is plain and simple but could have that extra touch with an added ribbon or broach??

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

If thats your favorite then tell them to order it. Problem solved.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I like the one that you picked the best out of all of the dresses.  I can’t believe they are giving you such a hard time! When I have been in weddings I have not said a thing about the dresses, it is not about me!

I did the mis-match bridesmaid things (*hides*) but I had a very large bridal party (9).  I chose the color, fabric, and designer, and they chose the style.  I can definitely see why people don’t like doing that though!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

You could either say “Hey…here’s the dress you guys are wearing. Make sure to order it by xxdatexx.” Or you could attempt to be a little more diplomatic and say “Here are 2 (or 3 dresses) that I can envision in my wedding. Let’s take a vote. Most votes wins. End of story.”

Its your wedding. She gets to decide what she wears to her own but you get the say so in your’s. I actually like the look of mismatched bridesmaids dresses….in other people’s weddings. Like you, I only have 3 attendants. To me, that isn’t really enough to look like the mismatching is intentional. I worry that it would look like everyone just sorta showed up in whatever they wanted.

 

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@kay01: I think that Mori Lee dress is great looking. I had a similar Bridesmaid or Best Man dress. Floaty, knee length and mine were navy blue.

I think you should just tell her it’s your wedding and this is what she’s wearing. Can your parent’s help with this at all? Tell her to “buck up” and be a good sister?

I mean it’s not like you are putting her in a chartreuse puffy sleeved 80s monstrosity, it’s a nice dress!

 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Do you have a preference on short/long dresses? IMO that’s more the issue for her.

For my friends, I don’t want to wear a short dress (she keeps telling me I MUST tan but my family has a long history of cancer and I break out in hives from the cold) but I’m kind of like whatever now, I’ll just wear tights if its too cold outside for the ceremony.

Its really your call in the end though. I think the dress you picked is nice and universally flattering. put the hammer down and tell them to buy it

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

That Mori Lee is beautiful, and while it isn’t a long dress, it falls below the knee, so it’s not like you’re asking her to wear some mini-skirt.  I say just go with that one, even if she’d rather wear something else.

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