(Closed) *VENT* Surprised Hubby for B-Day, DH Can't Even Say Thanks

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Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m really meticulous about my car and would hate to have someone put crap all over it…and i’d be downright LIVID if someone called in sick to my work without asking me what I had going on…or at all for that matter. Unless it was a life threatening emergency I would worry about looking unprofessional if someone else called in for me. Maybe he is the same way?

I get you were trying to do something nice for him, but you have to consider your audience when give a gift…or else it’s not really a gift at all. Sounds like you did something that would have made YOUR day better, not so much his. Assuming he’s typically not an ungrateful ass, I think youre probably right to apologize as he probably reacted this way not as an shot against you but because he was really caught off guard and uncomfortable.

Post # 47
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Honey bee

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playdohpants:  Oh I’m sure it was….it wouldn’t make me any more OK with it, though :/

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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LittlePumpkin:  Aww, I’m so sorry he reacted this way. I guess I’m the only one, but I would have loved all of these! Maybe he just had a rough day. *hugs*

Post # 49
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think we lost the OP a long time ago.

Post # 50
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Oh no, you might be in big trouble with the call out thing :/ That’t horrifying. Honestly, if I wrote honk it’s my bday on my fiances car, I’m pretty sure I’d go out to find my car gone and his there to take to work lol. I’m a pretty extroverted girl, I don’t mind PDA so much but that is embarrassing. The hiding in the cubicle would annoy me and I’m pretty sure most other people. I’m sorry OP, I totally get the bday thing, I’m a birthday fool & I love any excuse to celebrate a bday, but it’s way too much. I pretty much live for my days off and for those days off to be spent chillin w/ my man, but if I found out in the morning that I didn’t have to work b/c my fiance had arranged it I’d be REALLY REALLY annoyed. You don’t know what he has going on, his boss may not even know! I run a company and see the owner sporadically during the day, sometimes not for days at a time & I only fill him in when needed. If I woke up and was told I had the day off I’d probably have to run to work and make sure everything was together & to let the owner know what was going on exactly and that would feel like a wasted day off. Calling out sick is one thing, if you’re sick, you’re sick and you can people figure out what to do and get filled in as much as possible, but if it’s a regular day off, I want to plan for it!! I think most people operate like that.

Post # 51
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Blushing bee

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ClaudiaKishi:  Yes, seriously. It was a direct quote. And since it was so offensive to you maybe I should explain it very clearly. He would never and would never say it seriously. However, within our social circle one of our dear friends had far too much to drink one night and basically told the wall she was running in to if it didn’t stop touching her she was going to cutabitch. It’s a running inside joke between a large group of our friends. I grew up in an abusive household ans have walked that path myself, and he would not ever think about doing that literally. 

Post # 52
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I personally would not be embarassed. I would feel special and loved! My DH sent me flowers once to work, and it was the best freaking day ever! With that being said, everyone does not react to things in the same way…He needs to thank you properly no matter what because it was a very sweet thought, no matter how he took it. Nontheless, don’t waste your time doing anything over the top for his birthday again. I think you will just be further disappointed.

Post # 53
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

i don’t want to pile on….but you essentially made him drive to work in a clown car, hid (?!) in a professional place of business, then surprised him with more balloons etc, tried to kiss him (at work – criiiiinge) and you’re upset with him? i’d be prepping a big apology. 

also – on the taking a day off for him – just because the boss went along with it doesn’t mean they’re okay with it. he might think you both hatched up the plan, or that your husband asked you to do that – either way, it’s totally unprofessional. for all you know, you’ve really left one of his coworkers in the lurch without him there. 

i think you need to think carefully about how to salvage this birthday for him. 

Post # 54
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Sugar bee

OP, I hope you were able to remedy this and aren’t scared off. I’m crossing my fingers that the reason we haven’t heard from you is because you’re enjoying a nice, romantic birthday night with your husband 🙂

Post # 55
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

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peonyinlove:  That was my thought. There is some serious apologizing that needs to happen, and it’s NOT from DH to OP for not liking the shenanigans here.

I’m a big fan of PDA (my DH and I have literally made love in public in broad daylight), but if he came into my place of work and starting smooching me repeatedly while drawing the entire office’s attention to me, I’d probably give him a hearty shove and tell him to get OFF ME for chrissake. There’s a time and a place for all things, and in the workplace ain’t it. Really inappropriate.

Post # 56
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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rachel85:  now cringing at OP and your comment….

Post # 57
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

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cls9q:  Eh. Deserted beach in the tropics =/= tonsil-hockey in an office. Like I said, time and a place for all things. And if her hubs isn’t into PDA, she shouldn’t try to make him into someone who is.

Post # 58
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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rachel85:  Oh. When you said “in public” I thought you meant with people around, not deserted. My mistake

Post # 59
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

 

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cls9q:  I’m not quite THAT San Francisco (At least not yet.)

Post # 60
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Bee Keeper

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bebelicious1:  Your DH sending your flowers is totally different than what OP did.  That was thoughtful (like her doing what she did for her DH) but also low key, it didn’t call you out hugely, but was there to tell people “hey, my DH got me flowers.”

OP, are you sure his boss was okay with you calling out sick for him?  I know my boss would not approve of it unless I was on death’s door.

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