Post # 1
It makes me a little sad that my first post here is a vent, but I have to get it out!! I have been looking for a venue in NYC for four months now. I have visited about 50 venues, searching for the NYC Holy Grail: a place that A) won’t bankrupt me (we are paying for the wedding ourselves), B) has outdoor space, C) has great food, D) offers an iconic NYC experience, as most of our guests will be from out of town. Yesterday, I finally found it. I can’t even put into words the relief I felt that we could finally move forward with the next phase of planning the event. I finally felt excited and energized about wedding planning again. The only issue with the place was that they literally had a single day available in 2011 – a Friday in August. I talked to a bunch of friends and family and the general consensus was that it was fine, especially since it’s the summertime and lots of people have summer Fridays so they’d be able to make it. Then I spoke to my sister today (my matron of honor), and she announced to me that she’s pregnant with her first child, and her due date is: the only Friday I could get married at this place.
UGH. I know I’m being a brat, and I’ll be really excited for her in like 24 hours….but I am just so, so bummed out right now and just needed to type this out, since obviously I would never tell anybody that knows me how I feel right now!!!! I guess I’ll get married next year.
Post # 3
@psudopoddy: I can understand why that would upset you.
Would you be willing to get married in Queens, Brooklyn, or NJ looking back into the city?
That may give you more options for locations and dates without having to wait a full year.
Post # 4
@KatNYC2011: Thanks, I appreciate that! The venue we found was actually in Brooklyn…gorgeous, gorgeous. I just need 24 hours to mourn the loss 🙂 and then I’ll get back out there.
Post # 5
you could always put your name on a wait list there and if they have a cancelation they would call you, this way theres still an option for a different date
Post # 6
Could you move the date to early 2012 or be put on a ‘cancellations’ call list? You could also ask this venue for additional recommendations. Many times venues that can’t meet your date requirements will recommend good venues that provide similar services. We were really fortunate with our wedding that one of our vendors recommended this. We also had another available due to a canceled event.
Post # 7
What’s the venue you love…maybe we can suggest something similar?
Post # 8
Ugh I feel ya. You don’t sound like a brat, you just sound disappointed for you but happy for her. My sister and Maid/Matron of Honor got pregnant too and was huge at my wedding lol. I had to choose a different bridesmaid dress and stuff then our original pick, but I got over it quick and can’t wait for my nephew to hurry up and get here already.
Post # 9
Thanks guys, I already feel better knowing I am not some cold-hearted lunatic! The venue was the Brooklyn Botanic Gardens. Apparently they require a non-refundable $10,000 deposit to book a date so they don’t have many cancellations, but I will definitely ask to be added to a cancellations list if they’ve got one. Once I quit moping and get around to feeling like there’s an upside, maybe I’ll look for a 2012 date during cherry blossom season and have my adorable new niece or nephew incorporated somehow into the ceremony.
Post # 10
You are totally not!! You are having a completely understandable reaction, and dealing with it well by venting on the Bee and not to your sister. 🙂 Good luck – I am sure you will be happy with the wedding you end up with!
Post # 11
I imagine Central Park Boathouse is around the same price and its beautiful. But you are right. That venue is somewhat incomparable. I’m sorry hun. Keep your eyes on the NYC board for other good places like the Frick etc.