(Closed) VENT: The “T” word…

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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5428 posts
Bee Keeper

Yes, your Sponge Bob poster is…. very… colorful.Laughing

And I am now going to watch what words I pick out as I type, I have written and re-written responses because I am very direct and to the point., and I think some people should “know” better and my responses are very “mean-spirited” SOOOO, I have toned myself down and I like myself better this way, hope other bees will follow your example too!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I don’t know. I wouldn’t ban it. I do think some things are tacky (have you seen the boob wedding dress pic that floats around here, or the bride who had a giant cake made in her image?). Or overt sexuality at weddings. But I usually reserve it for things I think completely inappropriate, not things I don’t like. If we all liked the same things, the world would be boring. Gloves aren’t tacky. Camo isn’t tacky. Cleavage isn’t tacky. They’re just different tastes.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I feel the same way. I use to blog under a different name but people became hateful of some of the things I wanted in my wedding so I started a new account today w/o any pictures. I’m so glad you posted this.  Not everyone has the same vision/dream for their wedding.  That doesnt mean their idea is any less than the next person, just as long as it makes them happy.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree it’s used way too often on here.  I’ve actually made a conscious effort to stop describing things as tacky because I realized how hurtful it can be.  But I think banning the word is a little too restrictive! 

I like your list of synonyms; it really shows what the world really means! 

What really bugs me is when someone posts “Is X tacky?” and then gets mad when people say yes.  Don’t ask the question so direct if you don’t want that word!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

mrs_pugetsound for Bee of the Year!

Like we don’t have enough stress and disappointment from being judged by everyone else during this process, the place we turn to for support and ideas can also be a place of judgement. 

Tacky is a terrible word choice. Perhaps we could use words that get across more clearly what we’re trying to express: that a particular choice may raise eyebrows so be prepared for that, that a choice seems ill-advised and may not turn out well, that a choice is likely to offend guests, etc. I see over and over people describing as “tacky” what is merely unconventional

The opposite of “traditional” is not “tacky,” it’s “non-traditional.”

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@abbie017:  What really bugs me is when someone posts “Is X tacky?” and then gets mad when people say yes.  Don’t ask the question so direct if you don’t want that word! +1

I really try to avoid it, and if I really feel compelled to use it, I strive for non absolute terms (i.e. “I would feel tacky doing it at my own wedding” or “My social group would view it as tacky” as opposed to “It is tacky”).

Post # 10
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2866 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Eh. I will use whatever words I feel describe something. Personally I think people are overly sensitive and need to learn how to buck up. Life is hard and if a stranger telling you something is tacky is going to ruin your day then personally I think you need to join the rest of us in the real world. This isn’t Happy Kitty Hug land and people are going to be and act differently. If you think something is awesome then who cares if I think it’s tacky? Go on with your bad self and own your choices. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I see nothing wrong with the word and I love to use it. If something is tacky, then it’s tacky!

I’m also one of those people who throws the word “hate” around.

I really think people on here need to toughen up. Is the Internet, folks, you gotta be strong! Nothing should surprise you, and you should expect people to disagree with you/tell it like it is/call you out/be a little mean. If you put yourself out there, you have to accept all possible responses. Weddingbee is like a friendly little sandbox compared to my favorite forum; most of you probably wouldn’t last a day there lol.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Tacky is an ok word if it is used to mean what it really means (see the awesome list of synonyms) but it’s way over used and pretty mean. If you don’t like something be tactful and include reasons why as others have said, not my taste…not in this situation because…etc…

*side note* I’m not always nice (but I try really really hard) but maybe I could have a place at court in Happy Land, I carry spare tampons, advil, tissues and a second umbrella, just in case I’m not the only one caught in the rain. I think I’ll pass on the unicorn-bum-cupcakes, maybe if other flavours were offered? 😉

Post # 14
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1568 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I will use the word tacky for well, something that I think is tacky! I don’t see anything wrong with the word and I think the idea of banning it is actually pretty childish. I don’t use the word too often and try not to use it on things that can be very personal to a bride but sometimes I think it’s just the appropraite term to describe my thoughts on something.

Post # 15
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6824 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have to agree with CallmeC on this, if the word tacky is going to ruin your day then maybe you need to toughen up.  People are way to oversensitive about what other strangers think on the internet about their wedding or whatever in life. 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sponge bob is pretty tacky…just saying.

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