VENT THREAD – no one held accountable for what they say here, lol

posted 4 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 136
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1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

ahsoka :  Right there with ya!  Problem is these guys don’t do self reflection and it takes that to go to therapy willingly.  No these are the guys who become “incels” and start taking their self entitled wrath out on innocents a la eliott rodgers or that dude who threw a 5 year old off a mall balcony last week.

There was nothing about his post that was funny just delusional & scary.  I’m just waiting to read a story about some dude going crazy in a Starbucks.

 

Post # 137
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779 posts
Busy bee

My husband and I both the “easier” kids in our families. Like our siblings have all just generally taken some rockier paths while we typically do the “right” thing. Because of this it’s like our accomplishment are taken for granted in a way but our siblings do anything well and it’s front page news. 

My vent is that in May we are both graduating on the same day with post grad degrees. Father-In-Law asked if we would be coming down for mothers day which we said no to because we are flying out the next day to go on a vacation after graduating. So Father-In-Law said that we’ll just also celebrate mothers day when they are up here to celebrate our graduation. It’s petty but it just really pissed me off, we have worked SO hard can we have one thing that’s not about someone else too! It’s not even mothers day the day of our graduation!!! And if it was a sibling having an achievement it would for sure be made into the biggest deal 

Post # 138
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362 posts
Helper bee

Have people gone insane thinking it’s OK to crowdfund a wedding??

I have a “friend” on FB who I swear only posts in order to try to make people feel sorry for them(you know the types in high school who would post a drop dead gorgeous pic and say ‘omg I’m so ugly’). But now to add icing to the cake they’ve created a GoFundMe AND A Facebook fundraiser for $1500 because they want to have a destination wedding and they’ve been trying to get married for 5 years!

Dude, it’s $30 to go to the courthouse and get married. If not having a private ceremony in another state is keeping you from getting married then your priorities are more screwed up than I thought.

(they’ve only funded about $170 so far, which I feel sorry for the idiots that decided to donate to this but also have hope that many people aren’t buying this bs)

Post # 139
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62 posts
Worker bee

I work for a government agency. Without going into too much detail, it is the type of service that you don’t want to have to access and when you have to it is during a pretty stressful and likely traumatic time for you. Because we deal with a lot of confidential information, we can’t be very specific when talking about all of the good that we do for the community. Probably once every couple of months there will be a one sided news story about how someone got “screwed” over by us. We can’t really answer to it because of confidentially. So, as a result we don’t have a great reputation and there are a lot of fb hate groups about how we all deserve to die. 

I love what I do. 95% of my interactions with my clients are positive. I have great relationships with my clients and I am proud of the work I do to support them. However, I often find I can’t be truthful about where I work when I am meeting people for the first time. If I am honest and say the name of my employer there is a chance that person will go on a long diatribe about how a friend of a friend of a friend had a horrible experience and didn’t get the help they needed. I want to argue with these people that although there is a slim chance that is true, it is far more likely that they weren’t entitled to something they felt they were owed and that when they trash talk us they leave out key details of the story.  

Anyway, my vent is that I hate not being able to be openly proud about what I do and I ESPECIALLY hate when friends or family of mine just volunteer my job title when introducing me to people. 

Post # 140
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287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I really hate how much *open* promiscuity is defended and celebrated. What a woman does with her body is up to her- absolutely. If she wants to sleep with 100 guys more power to her. But why does it have to be so in your face? Why isn’t your sexuality a private thing? And before people say this is sexist- I feel the same way about men who parade around their sexual conquests. It honestly makes me think less of them as a person, on an intellectual level, because they promote their sexuality before any of their other traits. I don’t believe sexuality is supposed to be a status symbol. 

 

Also, I’m sick of Christianity (in the US) and how it’s so okay to rub it in peoples faces. This is more just southern US as well- I moved her recently and it’s insane how much I’m bombarded with prayer and church invites. I was at a WORK function and the BOSS lead everybody to say GRACE. And it was a huge 2 minutes thing. What the hell am I supposed to do during that except awkwardly stand there, hoping nobody can see the involuntary expression on my face calling me out as NOT ONE OF THEM. Should NEVER okay for a work environment. 

Post # 141
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1822 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Just cos someone is married with a kid doesnt mean their life is more mature or put together than someone who doesn’t. 

Also being a Stay at Home Mum is NOT a full time job. 

I asked my sister who has a 6 month old what she was doing today.  She said a walk, gym (while our mum babysits) and a bit of housework.

Post # 142
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1822 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

rosadiaz :  Omg Australian problems sound like the issues we have in New Zealand. House prices are astronomical in Auckland and so is the cost of living. Some of the girls at work spend all their money on going on 2 overseas trips a year, uber eats 3 times a week and wonder why they cant afford a house. Then again they want a house to buy in the area they flat and cant understand why that’s not possible! I explained to a girl at work yesterday how much the mortgage payments would be a month on a $1 million house yesterday.  She was shocked. They waste all their money.

Yes then there’s the group that wants more and more hand outs. I swear the only hand out ill ever get it maternity leave from the government. Doubt we will even get a pension

Post # 143
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1822 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Ha my last vent! Why is everyone so sensitive and easily offended these days?!

Post # 144
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1392 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

otterbee :  The most recent ex-girlfriend of one of my friends was like this. She was in a committed relationship and would brag that one of her previous conquests was begging to have sex with her again! She also went into details of her prior partners (of which there was over a dozen) without me asking or wanting to know about any of it.

I think she had some confidence issues though, and having the attention of men made her feel wanted/better about herself. Sad, really.

Post # 145
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1392 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

I want to vent today because I’m super frustrated with my family! Family member A has done/is doing something bad, so member B told me about it. But I can’t talk to even my own mother about it because she’s keeping it a secret from me (at least for now. Hopefully this will change or my relationship with her will be damaged). 

So I have to pretend I know nothing, while internally freaking out that I know everything, but can’t vent to anyone about it since that compromises trust between me and B, and can only wait until my mother *hopefully* fills me in. Gahhhhhhh this SUCKS!

Oh, and I’m going through finals at the same time.

Post # 146
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743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

buzzerbeater :  ugh this, so much. Congrats on your degree, that’s awesome and good for you! Ignore the socially ignorant /emotionally unaware family members who don’t want to recognize your accomplishments on their own.

Post # 147
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385 posts
Helper bee

Work vent. When calling a business to ask about something, if you have more than one question, ASK THEM ALL AT ONCE so the person helping you over the phone can find out the answers all at once and not have to put you on hold 5 times to go and check!! Sooo annoying! I just wish there was a way to disconnect the phones without my boss finding out when this happens! 😂

Post # 148
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241 posts
Helper bee

I got engaged with a moissiantie that I love; however, hubs wants to get me a diamond, I’m perfectly okay with that 🙂 

Anyway, SIL (who is a major biotch) overhears me telling my brother’s girlfriend (who is also shopping around for an engagement ring) and asks me ‘WhY arE YoU GeTTiNg a nEW RiNG!?!’ In a whiney, jealous tone. Proceeds to tell me it’s a ‘StOopID wAY’ to spend money and that she is happy with her $400.00 Walmart set. 

I told her that was fine, and that I am happy with my beautiful set I have now… but that our decisions are ours and as long as we’re happy and not putting ourselves in a bad financial place that it doesn’t matter. 

Post # 150
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743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

ahsoka :  Vent:

The fact that the cycle of abuse is real fucking kills me. I fucking hate when people use Jesus as an excuse for bad decisions. Somehow the two seem to be tied together far too often.

Also when there is a massive fucking underlying problem in another Bee’s relationship and she spends like 8 paragraphs complaining that Darling Husband doesn’t pick up his socks or say “I love you”, and then you find out ten minutes later that he’s fucking beating her, and her excuse is always something fucking stupid like “I didn’t fold the laundry”.

Are you fucking kidding me. God damn. What year is this.

It’s 2019, we all know the statistics. There is no excuse for ignoring the signs then being like “my husband doesn’t love me because his dinner got cold”. Yeah, he punched you in the fucking face this morning, he fucking hates you and it has nothing to do with that Betty Crocker bullshit, so stop convincing yourself he will change. And stop blaming porn and sex and the Devil, quit praying and start packing, unless you want to end up dead.

The small town, damsel in distress, Church lady, “sex is evil” hick bullshit hasn’t been cute since 1954. Read a fucking book. There are hotlines now.

Your husband doesn’t beat you because he had a bad day or because he’s possessed, he beats you because he’s a fucking asshole. Stop it with the “he needs to find Jesus” shit, no he doesn’t, he needs to find a pair of handcuffs and an obnoxiously hung black dude to make him a prison bitch.

My mom warned me about this stuff when I was a kid and I didn’t believe it. I thought it would be easy. If someone hits you, you leave. Period. Done. End. I thought it was like 1% of women who stay, and come to find out it’s everywhere, every time I turn around it’s the same thing. How the fuck does this happen. We put man on the moon 60 years ago, can we please teach our daughters not to take shit.

 

Adding that I’m gonna get so much shit for this.

 

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