VENT THREAD – no one held accountable for what they say here, lol

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Post # 31
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4497 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

nita07 :  hahahaahhahhaha I feel the same!!!! I always make sure to refer to mine by his first name after people have been introduced to him. 

Post # 32
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574 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

I have medical issues which make it really hard for me to travel, especially to fly. It’s taken about a year for people to stop making snarky, mocking comments about the fact that we had our honeymoon in the UK, where we live. Now, it’s started again with people asking if we’re going away for the summer. If you say “no, I can’t fly”, you frequently get a monologue about how it’s the safest way to travel and there’s nothing to be scared of, or one about how travel will expand your mind and you’ll be less of a person if you don’t do it.

1. I’m not scared of flying, I just can’t do it

2. Do you not think I’d love to be relaxing on a beach in the Maldives or trekking to Machu Picchu? I’d kill to be able to do these things, my body just won’t let me do it! And I shouldn’t have to go into the minute details of my medical history before they accept my statement that I just can’t travel!

Oh, and while I’m on the subject, my mother making a comment the other day that I’m “not good with pain”. No mum, I have a chronic pain condition and I’m in agony most days, but you’re right, I have no idea about pain management.

 

And breathe… I actually feel better!

Post # 33
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1877 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

kittycatcat :  people in the UK, just don’t accept that the UK is a holiday. We have no health conditions that stops us from flying but we haven’t been “away” since our honeymoon 3 years ago. We have been away. We’ve had a long weekend in the Peak District and a long weekend in Scotland. Plus the various long weekends for visiting family. We also took a week and did local day trips every day. We are thinking of a week in North Yorkshire this year but it’s not “away” because we aren’t getting on a plane. We’d much rather take our dog, visit somewhere amazing in the UK, go walking than sit by a pool in Lanzarote and not leave the hotel complex. 

So my rant is – British people, visiting Lanzarote (or other generic EU location), staying at an all-inclusive and not leaving the resort complex (going to the Irish pub two doors down from the hotel does not count) is not going away. It’s sitting in a metal can for four hours, being herded like cattle for hours and then getting skin cancer – which you can do by going on a sunbed, it’s cheaper. Going away involves an element of exploring the local environment, enjoying the local food, talking to locals and understanding their culture. It’s seeing how different countries live, not going somewhere it’s hotter but you can still enjoy PG Tips and “none of that foreign stuff”.

Post # 34
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574 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

loz24 :  Yep, I totally agree with your entire post!

Plus there are some beautiful places in the UK, we had a brilliant time on our honeymoon regardless of what anyone else thought of it!

Post # 35
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221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

1. Snarky remarks about my budget wedding. Someone not even on the guest list was horrified I was serving cheese, crackers, and hummus at a laid back backyard wedding as appetizers. Swiftly told her she needn’t worry, she’s not invited

2. Cat hair EVERYWHERE now that it’s spring. I know it’s not her fault and I comb her and vacuum daily but goodness, I don’t even know where it’s all coming from!

3. If you’re going to charge me $40/month to park at my work, at least make the spaces big enough for a car to fit!  I’m SO tired of squeezing my corrolla into impossibly tight spaces

4. Fiance’s loud breathing at night…I know it’s allergies due to cat haie (see number 2) but doesn’t make it any less irritating for the poor soul who has to sleep next to him!

that’s all I can think of for now, be back tomorrow when more stuff annoys me. Lol

Post # 36
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Bumble bee

I wouldn’t say I’m annoyed but I definitely shake my head at some of the wedding related drama / problems shared on this site that in my mind are just non issues, like if or who’s throwing (or not throwing) a shower / bachelorette party, if one’s mother / Mother-In-Law / bridesmaids are going to dress shopping with them, being upset about who’s coming or not coming to the shower or bachelorette party, if Bridesmaids are doing enough or too much, sometimes I just think…dude there are bigger issues in one’s life than to stress over something so small and just irrelevant. It’s just a party! Why make things so complicated and exhausting?

I also find it interesting that a lot of peoples these set ideas of what a wedding must entail, like when you tell them you’re doing it differently, they give you this blank stare like they never knew it’s acceptable to do it differently. Like we’re not having or cutting a cake, one lady asked “do you not like cake?” I just facepalmed. 

Anyway that’s my rant lol..

Post # 37
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566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: London, UK

I need to vent. Our friends are getting married next Thursday (THURSDAY) at a venue nearly 4 hours away from where they and ALL their guests live, it’s not a destination wedding, it’s not near to some of their relatives, it’s not where they grew up, it’s not somewhere they have any emotionally attachment to, they just picked this venue because they liked it, despite it being completely inconvenient for literally EVERYONE. My partner is an usher and we have been TOLD we have to be there the night before, so we have to fork out for a hotel (despite dictating this to us, they are not covering the cost), plus we are obviously having to stay the night of the wedding itself because of the journey. So we have got a nearly 8 hour round trip, 2 nights in a hotel and 2.5 days of annual leave for someone else’s wedding. We love them dearly and wouldn’t dream of not being there, but…yeah.

 

Post # 38
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77 posts
Worker bee

ok, I know this is stupid but…I can’t stand when people don’t acknowledge someone sneezing. Just say “bless you” damn it!

Post # 39
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4497 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

runsauce :  yes!!!! I’ve resorted to saying ‘bless me’ when that happens lol.

Post # 40
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546 posts
Busy bee

keikochan :  OMG- I have a cat too and totally understand the cat hair everywhere! I gave her a really thorough brushing last night and my gosh, the hair pile was as large as her (she’s a 15lb cat). I come home from work and there are just lumps of hair on the couch and carptet where she was lounging.

My new next door neighbors (I live in an apartment) are smoking insane amounts of pot (not legal in Illinois) and it had started to come through to my bathroom and bedroom. Bathroom vent was addressed and stopped the smell but then it started to come through the damn outlet in my bedroom. It was so much and so strong (and it didn’t even smell like the good stuff) that it smelled like they were smoking it under my nose. Luckily I have a good apartment management team and they are addressing it and added more insulation into that one outlet.

The kicker – there is a child (I’ve seen her, like maybe 6 or 7 years old) who lives there!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Post # 41
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680 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

Ugh I need this this morning.

My dad just served my step-mom divorce papers which was a total shock to everyone. Guess who was up until 12:30 am listening to her cry? And then dealt with my dad this morning for an hour over the phone as well. 

Since this thread said no judgement, I’ll just say it here and nowhere else: why why WHY do they have to do this NOW?! My wedding is just around the corner and suddenly I’m left in a position of wondering what this means regarding my step family of 15 years. In the heat of the moment he’s already threatened not to come if my step-mom comes (which I’ve decided is his right but I’m not going to let threats dictate my invite list). I know it’s not about me, so I keep these frustrations to myself, but I guess bigger picture I just feel so lost as to how to feel about this divorce. My step-sister is my sister in my heart.

When my parents got divorced, sure it was tricky splitting things up, but family was still family, just separate. But now, what, my step-family are just…nothing? Adios, goodbye, nice knowing you?

Sorry, my thoughts are all over the place. Still processing. Thanks for letting me vent!

Post # 42
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2458 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

“I’m sorry this is happening/happened to you.” on WeddingBee posts.

We agree things are sad, and of course we commiserate. But do we have to read the same sentence in every follow-up post?

Post # 43
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220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I had to sincerely apologize today after a customer at work was livid about a noise in her room for the whole week of her stay, apparently so bad she had needed ear defenders, only to discover she had left her electric toothbrush ON the entire week. 

Not sure if she just never turned it off, or she left it on once and never used it the rest of the week, but holy hell i cant raise my customer service to account for peoples stupidity. 

Also really f**ked off with everyone’s general opinions of my wedding ideas. Think im trying to get too much for too little and im unrealistic? Cool, but maybe help me out in a realistic way instead of just shi**ing on my parade. Oh but now this idea isn’t traditional and how dare i not do it? GOD FORBID. Even though you didn’t do it for your wedding but mine is totally different? COOL. THANKS

Urgh. Try and spend some money on it and im being “frivolous” and its just one day don’t i see that, try and save money and im being cheap and unrealistic with my expectations. 

Make it stop!

Post # 44
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85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2020

3 things, 2 wedding related and 1 personal. 

1. Thank you cards post wedding. This is alien to me. I don’t understand the immense disdain on the bee for people who don’t send them. Don’t get me wrong, I will send them to people (fiancés family side) who bring gifts, but I’d rather hang out and personally thank someone than thank someone via card. Maybe it’s because I’m young and maybe it’s also because I really hate writing cards. 

2. I’m really not into the rustic theme. This is really annoying, because I’m on a budget wedding and most budget-friendly wedding projects/decorations are rustic themed. 

3. Everyone around me that’s my age (mid-20s) is telling me about how I really need to travel and see the world. I’d love to but I want to afford a house before I turn 30, I have reoccurring monthly medical expenses, and I like nice things “But you could go to ____ on a weekend!” How about I do what I want to do, thank you very much. 

Post # 45
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7278 posts
Busy Beekeeper

moissamight :  I’m a born and raised Masshole and I’ve never understood people complaining about our driving. I’ve driven the entire East Coast and seriously – we aren’t bad at all by comparison! The Rhode Island Slide? Yea – enough said lol.  We also get called “Taxachusetts” even though we are smack in the middle of tax rates nationally and that drives me nuts. 

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