VENT THREAD – no one held accountable for what they say here, lol

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Post # 46
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1985 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

“I work with kids, and I am so annoyed when adults refer to them as “kiddos.” 

YES! This annoys the crap out of me. It just one of those things, like fingers on a chalkboard. “Gotta take the kiddo to violin lessons.””I have 2 amazing kiddos.” Argh!

On another note, I live in Northern VA (work in DC) and completely agree about the bad driving here. My husband goes crazy about how VA drivers seem to not want to get to their destinations and heaven forbid if there’s snow or even rain.

Post # 47
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1252 posts
Bumble bee

  nita07 :  I hate that so much too. If I know the name of the spouse then please stop saying my husband or my wife. They have names and I know them. 

Post # 48
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Yeah I live here too.  It’s terrible.  And people are rude drivers too.  I hate driving up here and look forward to moving somewhere with less traffic in a few years! mimivac :  

Post # 49
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Bumble bee

Oh, thank God, I need to vent about something that I’ve been holding in. 

SO’s close friend of ours is getting married in a matter of months. However, SO and I are just shocked by the whole arrangement. The girl he’s marrying is 22 (got engaged at 21) and will be married right after her 23 birthday. SO’s friend is our age (25). These two have been dating for 1 year and change before he popped the question. She was still in college and he had just finished schooling to become a Fire Fighter. She comes from a super well-off family. We’re talking having everything handed to her her whole life, always wearing new clothes in every photo, has never had to work, was party of a traditionally expensive sorority, etc. She just graduated recently. Her family is covering the cost of the whole wedding and it is being held at one of the most expensive hotels that you can have a wedding at. Think Four Seasons. She comes from a very religious background, so not only have they been dating for virtually no time at all, but they’re also not living together before marriage. She’s had the audacity to express displeasure when she found out SO and I have been living together longer than they’ve even known each other. 

SO and I just checked out their registry and it’s all stuff for her. I’m talking $100 bath mats, a $100 wooden bowl, and a $700 bedding set. Basically, this girl has grown up in a VERY well off family where money was never an issue and the price tag of things doesn’t matter. She’s in a career choice that is notorious for low-paying salaries and while being a Fire Fighter is a wonderful and giving thing, SO’s friend will not be pulling in the money that she’s used to having. 

So basically, SO and I are really sad for his friend. We firmly feel that he was pressured into proposing to her so soon (with a huge ring that meant family helped him or he went into debt) and we’re worried for the future he’ll have with her. She’s pretty entitled and doesn’t really understand the reality of money, and we’re worried their relationship will become quickly unhealthy when he tells her he can’t fund the life she’s used to. Everyone in the group views this relationship as so poorly thought out and a train wreck waiting to happen, and because of how religious they both are a divorce would likely never be on the table. She’s been telling people that her invitations alone cost the parents $8,000 (inviting 200+ people) and based on how much weddings cost at the hotel (my friend in events has worked weddings there) her parents are easily forking over $80,000 for this wedding. It just seems like they’re so wrapped up in the fairytale of a perfect luxery wedding but haven’t even thought of what comes AFTER. 

Okay, I’m done ranting. It irks me because SO and I are funding our own wedding completely, and while we’re both very comfortable and able to afford a $40,000 if we wanted, we think that’s stupid. So we’re fully prepared for this girl to assume her relationship is above ours because her Dad and Mom gave her a more expensive wedding. She’s been caught saying, “Serious relationships spend serious money on their wedding.” That’s rich, coming from a girl that isn’t going to pay 1 penny towards her own wedding. 

Okay, done ranting. If it wasn’t SO’s friend that was marrying this girl, I’d laugh at how ill prepared she is for life and how awful she’ll quickly become to a husband that can’t support her outlandish lifestyle. But since it’s a close friend of ours marrying her, we just feel pity. 

Post # 50
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117 posts
Blushing bee

yourhandinmine :  That is a *trainwreck.* “Serious relationships spend serious money on their wedding.” Holyyy shit!

Post # 51
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1963 posts
Buzzing bee

ahsoka :  are you sure I won’t be held accountable? because I feel like what I’ve been holding back will definitely be held against me if spoken lol

Post # 52
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I’m kind of in an irritable mood, so I’ll join in:

* People think their diet is the ONLY way to do things and then when you tell them why it won’t work for you, “that’s just an excuse.”

* People questioning why I don’t have kids.  This one has gotten easier with time, and I know they mean well, but dang it stung for a while.  Or when they find out why can’t have kids “oh, but have you thought of adoption/foster/IVF?”  And then expect an explanation (which I don’t give).

* The “you don’t know true love or true exhaustion until you have had kids” type…Again, this one still stings.  I have dealt with depression most of my life and several years ago it took a very scary and dangerous turn.  I’ll spare you the details, but my husband was right there by my side and stuck with me through it all.  If that isn’t true love, then I don’t know WTF is.  So take your santimonious true love bullcrap and shove it.  Also, he was deployed.  Yes, I get crying and sick babies keep you up all night, but so does a loved one in a war zone.  I averaged abt 3-4 nights of sleep for 10 months.  I was a walking zombie.  

*  Me, I’m currently annoyed with me.  I am very overweight.  In the last year, I have lost 60lbs, which is great, but no where near the goal I set for myself.  I keep reminding myself this is a HUGE accomplishment.  I have PCOS and every single doctor told me it would be impossible to lose the weight myself and my only option was gastric bipass (which never will be an option for me).  I am going on a cruise in June and I am being SO hard on myself.  I am terrified of the judgy looks, and holding myself back.  Heaven forbid anyone has a snarky comment (which I have heard of happening to other people in public).  I just wish people could see straight past people’s outward appearance and into their soul.  Where they could see the hardwork I have put in and the truth when I say it really is a struggle.  I swear on my life I don’t drink soda, eat fast food, or other unsavory options, but people don’t believe you.  They look at you like you are lying and have two heads.  🙁

* JudgieMcJudgerton types.  I went YEARS with holes in my shoes and buying my clothes at second hand stores.  If I want to buy my $200 pair of Tieks & a brand new Coach bag (that I got for 75% off) I will thankyouverymuch.  Not being able to have kids has perks, I have more money and can travel (bad joke, I know).

Post # 53
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1963 posts
Buzzing bee

yourhandinmine :  well she sounds like a real peach. I wouldn’t feel too bad for your friend, though—at 25, he’s a big boy and old enough to make his own decisions. he’s not being pressured into anything that he doesn’t have the ability to say “no” to. saying he was pressured removes all accountability from him, and HE is choosing to make this poor choice for his own life.

Post # 54
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130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Mother-In-Law just emailed this to me. Am I supposed to laugh? 

 

Post # 56
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344 posts
Helper bee

fl0werbee :  I also hate calling children kiddos –  and even worse “littles”.

 

Post # 57
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Just had my Brother-In-Law and his Girlfriend stay for the week. Brother-In-Law isn’t bad but his Girlfriend is a terrible house guest. The b*tch left her wet towel on my less than a year old wood floor. Excuse my language but it’s now f*cking  warped. 😠

My Brother-In-Law went for a work conference and left before I did for work. As hubby and I were leaving for work in the morning, his Girlfriend was eating her breakfast at the kitchen table. When I got back almost 9 hours laters, her crusty dirty breakfast dishes were still on my kitchen table and the saucepan she’d used to make  her scrambled eggs was still dirty on the stove. B*tch thinks I’m her maid! If this was a once off, I’d get over it but she does it constantly and purposely to be disrespectful. So many other things that I won’t go into about her that really points to her doing it on purpose… 

I’m this close to telling them not to visit or to stay at a hotel when they do. Rant Over 😕

Post # 59
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

qtrfan :  Ugh, My sister in law constantly says “little humans” undecided  Gag

I’ll complain!! Fi and I wanted to drive to visit his sister about 8 hours away for easter. we havent seen her since Christmas. She decided she’d rather go skiiing instead… didnt invite us, just told us we couldnt come visit. Rude. she then spent the next week texting us funny videos and “checking in” when we usually only hear from her once a month or so. Guilt much? I don’t feel bad for you!

Instead, we booked flights & accommodation to go visit FI’s best friend whos had a rough few months. He mentioned he my have to work one of the days we’re there, but he’d be free otherwise. He texted Fiance last night to say that he now has to work one day on the weekend too. So we’re there Weds night until Sunday evening and he works 2 of those days. I know we’ll still see him but it’s just really frustrating that we checked with him first, spent all this money and took 3-4 days off work to come visit him and he cant be bothered to book one freaking vacation day. SO annoyed. We’ll have fun without him, but that’s so not the point!

Post # 60
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130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

lifeisbeeutiful :  i seriously googled and saw the first one already. Almost sent one. But I’m just giving her the silent treatment now. She gets away with murder and laughs it off when she is confronted.

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