VENT THREAD – no one held accountable for what they say here, lol

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Post # 106
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956 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - Las Vegas, NV

Sansa85 :  I haven’t started seeing a therapist yet. I’m not anxious all the time it just happens at random for me. 

Post # 107
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80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Premier Ballroom

My husband is probably tired of hearing about my fibromyalgia so I will vent here lol. This week has been rough. My body aches soo much and I am so tired and drained of all my energy. On top of that my mom and sister live in Mexico (they have lived there for 10 years due to legal reasons) and I just wish we can know if they will be granted to come to my wedding, especially since my father will not be walking me down the aisle (bad relationship). I miss them so much and I am a bit emotional. I am sitting in work wanting to cry and haven’t been able to focus all day. I need a day off undecided 

Post # 108
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5226 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

FutureMrsA2020 :  I hope you’re able to figure it out so you can feel better. I do a lot of analyzing for my anxiety… did I get enough sleep last night, what was I doing before I started to feel anxious, what was the last thought that popped into my head before I started feeling anxious etc etc

Post # 109
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956 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - Las Vegas, NV

Sansa85 :  I want to start compiling a list of things so I can narrow down such as sleep, have I eaten, emotional triggers and etc. I was told to start journaling but I’m trying to figure out what will be the most effective method. 

Post # 110
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1186 posts
Bumble bee

Just today someone looked at me like an alien when I said we’re not having wedding cake. What is it with people and wedding cakes?!? Can someone enlighten me? Lol…

Post # 111
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738 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

missyjz :  I live for cake so yep, you must be an alien 😄

Post # 112
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2501 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

missyjz :  Well, I had 5 wedding cakes… so you may be an alien. 

Vent: about 18-24 months ago I started experiencing some GI issues, and they kept getting worse. I’m already lactose intolerant, have an egg sensitivity (not horrible, but they make my tummy unhappy) and now I also have a crazy sensitivity to gluten. To the point that I’m enormously bloated and internally messed up for 3 days if I have any gluten. Oh, and the pain is so bad, even breathing hurts. Almond milk and coconut milk also destroy my system. What really irritates me is that I LOVE food; I LIVE for food. And I see all this amazing food-porn on IG and it’s touted as “gluten-free” or “healthy” or “whole food” but I can’t eat it because it contains dairy and/or gluten. There are soooo many recipies that are gluten free but they almost all have dairy. Then the ones that are dairy-free are not gluten-free. It’s really frustrating to constantly have to adjust recipies to fit my dietary restrictions. The worst part is that I love dessert. And I’m so limited in what desserts I can eat. Sorbet, flourless cake, oatmeal cookies, fruit, macarons with fruit filling, pudding (made with lactose-free milk), and a few other random items.  So this sucks. Truly and unequivocally sucks. I was the person who traveled to eat, always wanted to try something new, loved cooking at home for friends/family, and always had an opinion on dinner. My husband is probably completely fed up (haha, a pun!) with my complaints, thanks for letting me vent here. 

Post # 113
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388 posts
Helper bee

Miss-Mauverick :  yes!! My husband has been working through gi issues and his original doctor’s response was to just throw more (scary) meds at him! So we packed up and have been working with a naturopathic doctor for the last year, and have been on a diet for 11 months. 5 of those ended up being gluten, dairy, egg, soy, peanut, corn, refined sugar, and citrus -free. (I only did the full diet for 1 month, though.) 

Now we have his actual sensitivities pretty well figured out and his condition is far more under control. However, finding recipes and worse yet, finding restaurants that are egg/dairy/gluten free + light on sugar and garlic… It’s next to impossible. 

And I love him. And I love that he’s healthier now than the past 10 years. But. I’m so tired of these stupid food restrictions.

Post # 114
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388 posts
Helper bee

 I’m two days shy of 40 weeks pregnant, but almost nobody knows my actual due date. I didn’t want to be hounded by people on/after the due date if baby wasn’t here yet. “Aren’t you due today/yesterday? Where’s that baby??” So I just told people “end of April.”

But I think it really bugged some friends (who think they’re closer than *I* think they are) who now like to bring up “well, we don’t know the ACTUAL due date…” and act somewhat entitled to knowing. Because, y’know, babies ALWAYS come ON their due dates, right? 🙄

It’s not April 30th yet, folks! Leave me be!

Post # 115
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899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

cthebeenyc :  I’m a lot older than 20s but I hear you on #4.  We bought a house a year and a half ago.  Home ownership has always been a goal of mine and it happened later in life because we wanted to buy upfront (no mortgage)  Most of our savings goes towards taxes and potential home repairs/upgrades (we turned our garage into a bar/entertainment space)However,  we live in a hcol area and a lot of people never own, which is fine, but I see the constant posts from my renting friends about all the travel they do and eating out and we’re over here posting about the new shelf we put up. My best friend from hs recently visited (he lives in Germany) and he said that he doesn’t understand how we can be happy  being homebodies.I just explained that people have different goals and we both had traveled but decided that home ownership was more important to us and put our money towards that.  We love our house and our town and have no regrets there.  

Post # 116
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128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

There has been so much drama and issues with my IL’s the past few months that I need to vent about some of it. 

1) Being told I shouldn’t take it too seriously when Mother-In-Law tells us what to do (including regarding our daughter) because “she just has a strong personality and that’s how she is”. Having a strong personality doesn’t give you the right to be a complete bitch to people and expect them to take it. 

2) I stated how one of the issues I have with how SFIL touched me inappropiately (upper thigh) was how all I got was excuses about how I’m taking it the wrong way and not an acknowledgement about how it made me feel and I had previously been in an emotionally abusive relationship where I was constantly told I was wrong for feeling how I did. I said that their excuses about how I’m taking everything the wrong was and shouldn’t feel like that are basically doing the same thing as telling me I’m wrong for feeling that way. I was told that maybe if I went to councelling after my abusive ex that this issue wouldn’t be happening. No amount of councelling is going to make me fine with being told I shouldn’t feel the way I do. 

3) Being told that we are tearing the family apart and ruining my IL’s grandparent experience because we want to set boundaries and not hand our daughter over on a silver platter for them to do whatever they want. 

4) Being told that I’m being ridiculous for not feeling comfortable around SFIL and put myself in MIL’s shoes and how would I feel if my parents said I could come over but not Darling Husband. So just because I can’t stand to be around someone who has been inappropiate with me I am expected to suck it up so Mother-In-Law can be happy and have her husband around. 

5) Being told I’m a negative person because all I do is dwell on the bad things they have done and I can’t look past it and just forgive and forget. I can forgive but I don’t ever have to forget because and soon as I do they just keep going back to doing the same things. 

I feel like I could go on and on with everything I have been dealing with for the past 6 months but I will stop here. It feels really good to get some of it out.

Post # 117
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385 posts
Helper bee

I thought if another one! I can’t stand it when people.type.like.this to get a point across. I’ve seen it almost everywhere recently! Even on memes! Either it’s the periods between words or the “clapping hands” emoji. No one really talks like that. Just stop!!! Hahaha idk why that irritates me so much, but it does! 

Post # 118
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3792 posts
Honey bee

bethio :  Mine first child did lol. To this day she likes to be right on time. The second one came 1 day later. Both babies had the same due date in the same month.

Post # 119
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327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I get really tired when people say how “lucky” you are. I sometimes post to social media when I take a vacation, or do something fun, or even just mention in conversation. I always hear about how “lucky” I am to be doing said thing. It has nothing to do with luck. I’ve been completely independent since age 18, everything I have in life is due to my own hard work. When I save up for months and make sacrifices to go on a trip, it’s really irritating to hear back “Well aren’t you lucky? I wish I could do x thing like you”.

Post # 120
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385 posts
Helper bee

I’m back. My vent/rant for the day is: why in the actual F don’t my garbage/recycling collectors close the damn lids when they’re done?!?!? It was raining all morning, so it was definitely raining when they collected the trash and recycling. Why oh why would they just leave the lids flipped open to fill with water from the rain? They cannot be that stupid!!! To make matters worse, some of the neighbors trash and recycling bins had the lids closed, so it seems like they pick and choose who to do this to. Every single time it rains, they leave them open. We just moved into the neighborhood a few months ago and I can’t think of anything we’ve done to them to deserve this petty, passive aggressive behavior!! 

Sorry, had to get that off my chest. Feeling much better now 😁

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