Post # 1
My wedding is JUST under the 9 month mark, and I’m falling behind. Wedding planning started out GREAT. I was ahead of schedule, people were volunteering to do stuff, etc. Being a very plan-oriented person…I was ecstatic.
This being said… I feel like my wedding has fallen off the face of the Earth. I’m not a selfish bride-zilla enough to think that my wedding should be the first and foremost thing in everybody’s lives, but I’m not exaggerating when I say I have been doing EVERYTHING alone lately. And really, being alone in this is NOT fun. So in not having fun planning my wedding…I’m procrastinating the planning. I don’t want to do this alone. I don’t want to BE alone.
I’m really not blaming anybody; the only bridesmaid I have that lives in town is 16 years old. Everybody else lives a good distance away. My mother lives a few hours away; my Maid/Matron of Honor lives 2 states away, and my other bridesmaids live in Florida–kinda a big leap for them, and my FH lives in Georgia (long story). Plus everybody has their own lives. I understand this. I do. I just…I need help. I don’t even know what to do next. I know what my checklist says, but I really don’t know how to carry it out. Which sounds stupid, I know, but it’s completely true.
I don’t know. I feel like I’m sounding like some whiny stuck up brat, when that’s not what I mean at all. I’m just a full time college student with a full time job and a wedding to plan with no time and no help to do it, so I’m stressed out. REALLY stressed out.
I guess what I would *like* to hear back from people is what you do when you feel like you’re about to collapse from stress.
Post # 3
Oh man that’s tough! Do you have anyone close by that can help? If not maybe ask your mom to help with certain things you don’t have to be in person to plan. Also you have plenty of time to get things done. Just delegate. Maybe put one person in charge of favors and another in charge of some other DIY project. (If they’re willing to help.) You can also delegate stuff to FH. Maybe he can work on finding a DJ? Or something else not girly. Don’t get discouraged. You have TONS of time left. Go get a massage and relax (or take a bubble bath if you’re on a budget.) Take a deep breath. Some stuff on those timelines is just stupid and doesn’t need to be done when they say it does.
Post # 4
Who haveyou asked that lives locally? Do you think anyone would lend a hand?
Post # 5
Feeling alone is realllyy annoying… I did all my DIYs alone though: invitations (FI helped), seating card, other decorations. Don’t worry, take a deep breath, and go through the plan again, revise if necessary.
I find most people around me aren’t into doing projects together, that’s why I didn’t ask them for help.
If only I live close to you I’d probably give you a hand. I love projects!!
Post # 6
I’m at the 9 month mark not one person has asked if I neede help. Not even my bridesmaids. No one cares. So far I’ve done everything myself and Fiance has helped little bit here and there. I doubt anyone will throw a shower for me. I don’t feel like at all. I’m not sure why. I havent made an requests or demands. I am cautious of being a bride zillla so I made it my goal.
Just be grateful you had some volunteers
i doubt I would get a bachelorette party either.