(Closed) VENT: Uninvited guests and I can’t do anything! (longish)

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

You are correct on all fronts – don’t say a word

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Hahaha, How I would love to be able to put “While we’d love to have ____ at the wedding, unfortunately due to venue restrictions, we can’t accommodate additional guests.”!!

I am sure there will be some people at the reception that I could deal without seeing, however I know I cannot let that/them ruin MY night 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I understand, that’s one of my MAIN concerns, specially cause I’ll send invites, people won’t have to RSVP. But I’m totally with you in the not having people the bride and groom don’t know at the wedding, it’s a special, meaningful,  personal occasion.. :S

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

To keep yourself sane, just think of all the thank you cards you *could* write: “It was wonderful to see you again – it’s hard to believe it’s been 20 years!  I hope we will keep in better touch over the next 20.  It was also such a pleasure to finally meet Relative X for the first time.  Thank you for bringing him.”

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

This is the part of the whole wedding planning process I’m dreading. We haven’t sent our invitations yet, but I’m already getting unwanted guests added when we call to get mailing addresses. Seriously people?! Why do you think that since you’re getting an invitation it means you can invite random people. Hey, if i wanted so and so at the wedding I’ll go ahead and invite them myself THANK YOU VERY MUCH! (phew sorry, had to vent)

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I also was cajoled into inviting some family members due to reasons of family obligation.  My mom said something similar to your dad – “oh don’t worry honey, I’m sure they won’t come – we barely keep in touch”  Famous last words…I know some of these folks have made hotel reservations for the weekend (formal invitations haven’t gone out yet).

On the other hand, I had carefully adressed our STD’s to indicate that everyone is allowed a +1.  Some overly-considerate people checked with me to make sure that it was intentional and planned. 

I think your approach is the best, especially if you can fit them into the budget.  That’s what I plan on doing as well. 

Good luck!

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