Post # 32
We were thinking about making it work, we would be in Mexico from the 6-13. Get back on a wednesday and then I would stay in calgary thurs fri sat go home on sunday. But thats just too long without seeing my kids, and my Fiance can’t really take anymore time off of work. I would NEVER be able to leave them at their grandparents for that long.
Post # 33
send him- stay home- he can room with someone- save lots of $$$$
Post # 34
A similar situation has occurred for me and Fiance. We were talking about the wedding to one of my FI’s friends who is also getting married and another friend (who I so very appropriately dub Mr. Butthole since he’s always been a complete ass to me) said oh well we are getting married in april. (my wedding is March 31) So I say, “are you engaged?” Which he replys with a “no”. And he said so you’re going to have to post-pone your honeymoon if you don’t mind. I would hate for you to miss my wedding.
So just put your foot down. That’s what I did(;
Post # 35
A situation like this came up recently. One of my bridesmaids (I was not chosen to be one of hers) was getting married the week before our anniversay on a Sunday without a holiday the next day and they choose Ashville, North Carolina – where NO ONE is from. (They thought it was really pretty.) This means, it would have been 10 hours of driving, a pretty expensive wedding and we’d have to take Monday off of work.
To make matters worse we were in the midst of planning our anniversary trip the next week and my DH wouldn’t be able to take time off for both.
We decided that if we could find someone to go with me (share a car/hotel room) I would go alone – if not, we wouldn’t be able to go. We choose our week long anniversary cruise over their wedding. And I have no regrets.
In the end they canceled their wedding – so all of those headaches over nothing!
So – I say that if it is that important to your DH, he should go. He can crash with a brother or cousin, you can have your stagette and you both can take your honeymoon together! Perfect solution for me!
Post # 36
Am I the only one thinking: MEXICO? Are they nuts? I just watched a whole special about the drug wars and how dangerous it is right now for tourists (especially Americans). Even I wouldn’t travel to Mexico right now and I’ve lived there.
I don’t think you should have to spend your honeymoon $$ on a trip to a Destination Wedding for your FI’s cousin UNLESS this cousin is like a sister/brother to him. If they are really close, I get what your Fiance is saying. If not, then you don’t both need to go, especially with your kids having to stay home. And if you can’t afford a honeymoon AND go to this wedding…don’t go. I have no idea why your Fiance even thinks that is an option. I would tell him “no honeymoon, no wedding.” But then again, my SO and I have a different relationship and he would never have considered that in the first place, so take my advice with a grain of salt.
Post # 37
I haven’t had time to talk to my Fiance, so I typed him an email this afternoon outlining why I am so against going to mexico. (postponing our honeymoon, drugwars, weather, my stagette) He very sheepishly walked in the door from work and admitted that he didn’t think of it as putting them before us, and now completely understands why I was so worked up in the first place. But he was only home for a few minutes before work called and now he’s gone again! So our conversation will have to continue another day, and he’s going to respond to my email tomorrow if he has the time.
I hadn’t even thought about the drug wars until there was a thing on the news about a man from British Columbia who caught a stray bullet in the leg while he was at his resort!!!! The Canadian Foreign Affairs are not recomending ANY unnecesary travel to Mexico from Canada at this time. I really hope FI’s cousin knows this, and I don’t want to be the one to break it to her.
Post # 38
I have a very common problem happening to me…We have had our wedding planned since last year and 3 months after us, my fiances brother got engaged. They planted their wedding 3 months before ours. Doesn’t sounds too bad right, except she is from Scotland and well there you go, we have to put down 5K 3 months prior to our wedding and I had to change my shower date. She is from edinburgh so she wanted the wedding there in the dead winter. I have heard about traveling to Scotland now for a year and I can’t tell you how overly excited I am to just go get it over with and then focus on ours. He is in the wedding, and well there was no way out of this one because its HIS BROTHER! We are paying for the wedding ourselves so I can’t tell you how furious I was about putting money down and not only that remember we have to do currency exchange to pounds so we are actually spending more than we wanted! Just take a deep breath and relax! No one said planning a wedding was easy! Just be the bigger person..believe me I was so angry and upset for a long time, but it only ruins the excitement for your own!
Post # 39
Well I am glad your Fiance is starting to see how you feel. Good luck and update us when ya’ll talk!