- 10 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
***DISCLAIMER—DO NOT BASH— I am pissed, and I want to get it out***
Where in the hell to begin?! I could start at the very very beginning of this wedding planning process or I could just start at last week. Hmmm, I think starting at last week would be a bit easier to digest.
From Sunday 5/22-5/30 things just kept falling a part.
Sunday- Bridal portraits were canceled for the 3rd time because of Tornadoes here in North Texas.. bummer
Monday-My mom thought it would be a great idea to have a friend of her handle my invitations instead of me handling them myself. Maybe in an effort to take a load of my shoulders. This was months ago. I told her friend that invites would go out MAY 15th 2011 so to give everyone including my out of time guests adequate time to prepare for my wedding. Well I met up with the lady and we picked out my EXACT invites, including color, wording, ribbon, and envelopes. We even went as far as to choose favors and napkins as well. She told my mother everything we had chosen, and then gave my mom the figure of $500 to work with. I figured this was a bit high, but maybe she was getting more expensive favors I didn’t know of. Also I know my mother would likely pay her for her time as well. Once the end of April began to near, I asked her if she ordered the invites yet, and the answer was no.. but not a straight no. She said that her emails were broken and she couldn’t find all the info we had given her. I resent it. I told her that I would like to come over once the invites are received to help put them together. She said ok. Then along comes May 12, 2011. I ask her about the invites again, and she says that she thinks that we need to send invites on the 25th because the 15th is too early. I put my trust into this woman (a very close friend of my mother’s) and said ok. She also mentioned that she received the invites and had to send them back for corrections because they spelled my first name wrong. Its a relatively easy simple name…. so I was a little more suspicious now. I called once every couple of days after the date started to get near and realized that my calls, texts and emails were not getting answered. I was getting pissed and frantic. Finally she answered a week before the 25th. She told me that I was just being nervous and that she thought it was a good idea if we included an addendum that mentioned something about ADULT ONLY and what not… I said ok, but asked her to not do it if it would delay invites. Then here comes the 22nd of May… I call, and call, and call. Everyone has begun to ask me when will invites start coming, and many guests need them as proof to take off work because our wedding is on a Friday. She doesn’t answer the phone. Finally that night she texts back and says that she was waiting on some inserts to be done and shipped, she would call back Tuesday. Tuesday and Wednesday came and went… I WAS HEATED AND EFFIN PISSED!! I KNEW after the first excuse that this crap was going to happen, but since my mom helped out with invites I took the cost for them out of my budget. Now I was looking at the fact I would have to buy them again. I called my Mom and freaked the hell out. She told me to wait for her to call back. Instead of wait, I told her that i was coming over to get my invites finished or not. She quickly replied that Thursday that she just left the printers and they will be done by 4… WTF!?!? Printers?? What the hell is she doing at the printers. I told her to drop off my invites ASAP! She never came. SO Saturday I sent FH to her house to get them
THAT B*%#@ had the nerve to hand him 100 invites from Hobby Lobby with the ugliest red and black font print and iridescent ribbon tied in the fashion of shoe laces….. THey were the most hideous things I’d ever scene… I nearly lost my religion. Here is what “REALLY” happened. She got my mom’s money ($500), then likely spent it, and when crunch time came she ran to Hobby Lobby bought a couple boxes of invites and ribbons, and went to kinkos for a quick print up…. All of which likely cost about $60….I have a barcode scanner on my phone that I used to find out where she got the items from. I told my fiance to send that crap back, and then I called my Mom who was understandably hurt. I forked up $150.00 to get the invites I was suppose to have originally plus $43 to get overnight shipping. THe least that b-word could have done was call to let me know she screwed up and didn’t get my invites. She had the nerve to give us 3 different stories for what happened… First my name was spelled wrong, then the ribbons came in black, finally the ink was running… Really??? When my fiance asked for the money she said she spent it on the new awful invites… I was pissed.I kissed $200 goodbye for some BS trifling b-word to get invites my mother had more than covered.
Tuesday- Bridesmaid loses her FREE dress and gown that I GOT from David’s Bridal.
Wednesday- I have to pay $300 to Uncle Sam just to get my own s*&%
Thursday- FH sister says yet again there is something about my wedding that she doesn’t like! I’ve had it. Since we got engaged she has had nothing but unpleasant things to say. FIrst she just couldn’t get it through her head why we are actually having a wedding. I find that odd since she had one! She says if she could do it over again then she and her DH would have just went to Vegas and married just the two of them. THats fine and friggin dandy but thats not what we are doing. THen she had a problem that we are actually taking a honeymoon. We understand lots of people don’t, and lots do…. Just because she spent 3 days in the Hyatt 3 blocks away from her place doesn’t mean that we want to. Next she complained about the dress… the FREE dress might I add. Then she told us that she WILL NOT get her hair and makeup done. She said she was beautiful enough and didn’t need it??? I was already on edge with dealing with that crap, but I held my tongue because my FH hadn’t seen his tiny family in 6 years and his mother, sis, and Brother-In-Law all live together. If one wasn’t coming they all weren’t coming. Then Thursday 5/25 she sends a text saying she hates my shoes…. That was it. I sent her a text back saying if she had anything else negative to say then to keep it to herself!! BOY DID THAT SEND OFF A FIREBALL!! My FH got a call from her, and his mom saying that she was only kdding and that she only didn’t like the shoes because she wanted wides…. REALLY? You obviously weren’t kidding if you just said you didn’t like them. I was tired of her nitpicking and negative comments and she couldn’t handle me not being the sweet tongue biter they’d grown to love. She freaked and said she wasn’t coming. I said a big fat OK and took them right off the list… Then Future Mother-In-Law sends me a message telling me to tell her any bad things from now own if I want to say them to the Future Sister-In-Law… WTF I do NOT need an operator to have a conversation with another adult. If she felt the ease of blabbing about all that she hated about my wedding then she can take it. I was not rude and I was polite. I took her out of my bridal party and boy did that cause some problems… Even though they were all still invited, she told FH that if she couldn’t be bridesmaid then her kids couldn’t be. SHe said she was protecting them…. FROM WHAT?!?! My FH flipped and said F*%$ them all… of course I felt responsible. I didn’t want a disagreement between his family and mine to make him feel this way. He said it was NOT my fault and I was his only family, and I was all that he needed and he is going to write them off….. I would never allow this to happen….. I picked up the phone yesterday and called his sister. I told her straight up she was being childish and I don’t play well with ultimatums. I told her that she killed her brother with her words and I will NEVER let anyone hurt him. I told her as an adult we need to learn to take the good with the bad and if we are going to be family we can’t expect everything that we do or say to be honky dorey. We have been engaged for nearly 4 years…
Friday- MOH/Roommate broke my dryer… great
Saturday- I ended up having to pay $350+ dollar worth of bills that previously thought because my FH accidentally forgot to pay a few things… along with added late fees—no bueno.
Sunday-Bridal portraits—went well in 95 degree heat except I got makeup ALL OVER MY DRESSES…. can you say dry cleaners??
Monday- When I bought my gowns I made sure to get the best deals and price available. My DB dress was free from a contest and my Maggie gown was $899 plus free steaming and alterations… Well time came to call on my alterations lady so that I could hurry and get the dress cleaned before or afterwards… well the boutique I bought my gown from and hour and a half away magically forgot that alterations were included… I know that I am no nut job because its listed on the receipt that they sent me. I have no idea where that piece of paper went, and with the week I was having I just said SCREW IT! That menat finding a cleaners/tailor close to home which will end up throwing me another $600 for both gowns…. sigh*
Tuesday- FH gets a ticket because he let his registration expire… I went to the office and paid the $70 for a new one…. FI’s new job pays every 2wks and we’ve spent the last month adjust from weekly to biweekly.
Wednesday—-so far noting major, hope I don’t jinx it
I could go into detail but it really isn’t worth it. With me working for only $11 and hour, money isn’t necessarily growing on trees.
Geez I can tell you that from this majorly long post that was barely the tip of the iceberg… but I have started to get carpel tunnel so lets just leave it with a
to be continue…
Thanks for the ear bees