(Closed) Vent: Waiting is so hard!! Tips?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

i would kill for a 1.5 year wait. so far i’m clocking in at 5 years. but what’s kept me busy and relatively sane is that i’ve been pretty busy planning other things. i finished grad school and that took a ton of time and occupied me pretty well, plus, since i love to plan things, i used my planning urge to plan other parties. but mostly i just enjoyed being with my mister and remember why it is that i want to marry him.

try to focus on your relationship because the wedding is only one day but the marriage is forever.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’ve been with SO for 4.5 years. Here are my tips Laughing

  1. Don’t nag him to death (must…not…talk…about…diamonds! Please please please please marry me!)
  2. Work out a schedule with your girlfriends for dinner once/twice a week so you can vent about how clueless your SO is (and tell them all about the wedding plans you’ve already made so they can tell you that they are not wearing yellow bridesmaids dresses because that color washes them out) 😉
  3. Remember that time flies. Honestly. 4.5 years has flown by much quicker than I would’ve ever imagined possible.

Can I ask why y’all decided that 3 years was the best time?

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I was just curious. I remember thinking 3 years was the perfect length of time, but I was never sure why I thought that so I thought I’d ask why it was for y’all 🙂 Obviously 3 years didn’t happen for me, but I’m glad that it worked out the way it did…we’re at a much better place in life than we were at 3 years. If I had the patience, I’d probably even wait a few more years to really get to a place where we were completely stable and able to have the big traditional wedding (which we’re going to miss out on I think because right now I can’t imagine spending so much on one day when we could use it for so many other things)…but my patience is thin after 4.5 years. For real though, the years have just gone by so quickly. I’ll bet you’ll hit the 3 year mark before you even know it Laughing

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@mxpinky:

I find that doing things JUST for you works really well. Find hobbies or activities that don’t involve your bf, and that make you happy. for example… Join a hot yoga class, or get some girlfriends together and take pole dancing lessons (they’re so much fun and a great work out!). Other ideas could be… Setting a personal goal for yourself (completely unrelated to weddings, etc) and try to accomplish it. This will definetly occupy your mind!

I’m currently trying to not talk about things as well, so in the mean time I’ve decided to grow my hair out (it’s only at my collar bone right now and I miss my long hair!). I’m concentrating on keeping it healthy, eating healthy, and doing research on what the best way to acheive this would be. At the same time, I’m attending auditions for fashion shows and photoshoots through the agency I’m with… All of this does not involve my bf and it’s nice to have something of ‘my own because doing all of these things makes me forget about not being engaged or when it’s going to happen. It puts me in a great mood.

Gwen.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

I baked 100’s of cookies at christmas and made all my tags by hand! LOL

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

LOL  That pic is huge, sry!! 🙂  I agree about hobbies though, if you can immerse yourself in life a bit, it takes the edge off

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