Post # 1
So it’s four days until our wedding, our RSVP deadline was November 15th, and we have four “yes” RSVPs change their mind THIS week. Two were completely understandable – my boss and his wife b/c she was rediagnosed with breast cancer last week – they have way more important things to deal with right now! I feel so bad for her, she battled it 12 years ago and now has to go through it again.
The other two are NOT excusable. One was a friend from high school who is now saying money is tight – but he was catching a ride with another friend and also staying in that friend’s room – so I kind of fail to see how that’s a valid excuse. Plus, maybe he should have thought of it when he RSVP’d to begin with. The other one – she thought the wedding was on Saturday. It’s not, it’s Sunday – the save the date and the invitation CLEARLY say Sunday, December 6th. Apparently she’ll be on a plane on Sunday. And I just got her “no” today.
I just don’t understand how RSVPing is that complicated, and why people don’t realize that when you say “no” at the very last minute, the bride/groom are going to be losing money to the venue! I’m now out almost $300 for these 4 people – and as I said – two are completely understandable – but the other two – good grief!!
OK, rant over, I feel better.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry- I understand your frustration! We had 6 cancellations the week before the wedding that we could not get reimbursed for. Unfortunately this is a pretty common occurrence, so you are not alone!
Post # 4
Ugh HATE that!! We had 8 people not show up that clearly RSVP’d yes, which pisses me off cuz we could have invited other people had we known. You could always try that if there are people you had to cut, most people are understanding due to budgetary constraints
Post # 5
That really gets me, too! I don’t see how people just casually decide they are not coming after RSVPing YES. Completely understandable about your boss and his wife, but the others – no way. Are you having a DW? I am hoping that this won’t happen to me because I am having a semi-DW.
Post # 6
UGHHHhhhhhh. You know, on the upside, at least they TOLD you. I went to the wedding where the groom kept asking where ______ was. She didn’t even have the decency to tell him she wasn’t going!
The reason she wasn’t going? She was a bartender and didn’t want to miss out on a Saturday night? WTF?
Post # 7
PS, is there anyone you could invite that would not be offended by a last minute invite? We had my brother invite some of his friends that I knew and I asked my single friends if they wanted to bring dates.
Post # 8
Ugh, sorry to hear it! I am sort of expecting the same thing, but I am having a Destination Wedding. Unfortunately, I think its a common thing.
Post # 9
i had this frustration too…I’m just glad that people didn’t let me know ahead of time, because when i found out 4 people were missing that we paid for, it was my wedding day, and my happiness trumped all the little frustrations. But we definitely were upset later on!
We ended up giving out friendor photogrpahers full meal and access to the bar which worked out ok, and my mom’s cousin brought her son who wasn’t invited…so at least the food didn’t go to waste!
Post # 10
@arizonabride – It’s not really a Destination Wedding – it’s just over an hour from where we live. Most of the people coming, though, are out-of-towners – we have people coming from California, Oklahoma, New York, South Carolina, Florida…(we’re in Virginia). The two last minute “no’s” were people who were driving, not flying. I think that would probably be less likely at a Destination Wedding.
@GreekGirl – I don’t think so. Pretty much the only ones left would be either more out-of-town people who we decided not to invite, or work people. Wish we could, though!