(Closed) Vent: wasted money b/c of last-minute changes in RSVPs.

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
52 posts
Worker bee

I’m so sorry- I understand your frustration! We had 6 cancellations the week before the wedding that we could not get reimbursed for. Unfortunately this is a pretty common occurrence, so you are not alone!

Post # 4
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Ugh HATE that!! We had 8 people not show up that clearly RSVP’d yes, which pisses me off cuz we could have invited other people had we known.  You could always try that if there are people you had to cut, most people are understanding due to budgetary constraints

Post # 5
1901 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That really gets me, too! I don’t see how people just casually decide they are not coming after RSVPing YES. Completely understandable about your boss and his wife, but the others – no way. Are you having a DW? I am hoping that this won’t happen to me because I am having a semi-DW.

Post # 6
683 posts
Busy bee

UGHHHhhhhhh. You know, on the upside, at least they TOLD you. I went to the wedding where the groom kept asking where ______ was. She didn’t even have the decency to tell him she wasn’t going!

The reason she wasn’t going? She was a bartender and didn’t want to miss out on a Saturday night? WTF?

Post # 7
52 posts
Worker bee

PS, is there anyone you could invite that would not be offended by a last minute invite?  We had my brother invite some of his friends that I knew and I asked my single friends if they wanted to bring dates. 

Post # 8
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Ugh, sorry to hear it! I am sort of expecting the same thing, but I am having a Destination Wedding. Unfortunately, I think its a common thing.

Post # 9
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

i had this frustration too…I’m just glad that people didn’t let me know ahead of time, because when i found out 4 people were missing that we paid for, it was my wedding day, and my happiness trumped all the little frustrations.  But we definitely were upset later on!

We ended up giving out friendor photogrpahers full meal and access to the bar which worked out ok, and my mom’s cousin brought her son who wasn’t invited…so at least the food didn’t go to waste!

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