Post # 32
When people ask you why you chose it, you can say “It’s our Dating Anniversary.” and they’ll go “Aww! Too cute”
When DH asked the groom about this wedding he said “It’s just the date we picked, it doesn’t mean anything.” Which evokes “WTF.”
ETA-I guess that’s why I’m mad is that it is an inconvenient day to have a wedding with no reasoning attached beyond “This is the date we thought of.” I mean, at least have a reason!
Post # 33
I’m with you on this. I don’t mind LV but I don’t hate it. However LV is expensive even in the off season and I’m sorry coming from someone who’s first trip there was 8 days long, a week is entirely too effing much in that town. I had fun dont get me wrong but by day 5 I was burned out and ready to go. It’s a 3 day at the most kinda place. This is extremely inconciderate to the guests.
Post # 34
someplace like las vagas i don’t understand why it would be on a tuesday either. i think friday, sat. or sunday would have been much more convenient!
but i wanted to speak up in this thread since i had a Destination Wedding on a Tuesday, LOL. My wedding was in Jamaica however, and so all my guests that decided to come did so by making a week long vacation out of it. Also, they all travelled in on either friday, saturday or sunday and stayed a week. so if i made my wedding on a saturday, it would have actually been inconvenient for them as they preferred their vacation to go from weekend to weekend. All the Destination Wedding travel agents advised me to book my wedding on tuesday for this reason, espcially since flights can change and be cancelled last minute. i was told not even to make my wedding on a monday because imagine someone wants to fly in on sunday and their flight is delayed to the next day! so i was told tues – thurs are the best days for a Caribbean wedding.
i also had one friend who wanted to come just for my wedding, like arrive monday night or tuesday morning and leave wednesday and i told them i would feel guilty if they spent all that money to come JUST for my wedding. the point of the Destination Wedding from the guests perspectives is that they are taking a vacation at the same time.
Also, we had people IN our bridal party not come due to unable to get vacation time or costs. Disappointing yes, but part of what i signed up for by having a Destination Wedding. So in no way did i expect anyone to come, even the bridal party! However, since several important people could not attend, we were prompted to do an AHR and then everyone was happy 🙂
basically i think you and your DH have a valid reason not to go. But i can see where you feel obligated since it is driving distance. At the very least, neither you or your DH should be made to feel obligated to go for the 5 days.
i also suspect they chose Tuesday because the venues and vendors have cheaper week day fees?
Post # 35
LOL, I did mention Jamaica earlier, didn’t I, LOL! 🙂 Maybe that’s just it. I would totally take a week vacation in Jamaica! It would be worth missing class for. I just can’t stand Vegas for more than a couple days. :-)~ Sometimes I can’t see the forest through the trees! Probably not the day I’m mad about as much as the location. Vegas isn’t nice enough for me to want to take the week vacation, but Jamaica would be. I was pretty worked up earlier, but now I’m over it. I’ll just fly out and be there a couple days. Judging by the movie The Hangover, I’m guessing DH will enjoy his time in Vegas much more!
Post # 36
Just to play Devil’s Advocate:
How far avay do you guys live from Vegas? Allegent Air often flys out and returns on Monday’s and Thursdays in my city for $25 to $54- It’s a HUGE saver from the $250-$350 the other airlines charge. That and a room at an OK Hotel (Excaliber for example) is very low midweek (We pay $35-$40).
Cost wise, Vegas on a tuesday is very inexpensive. Perhaps they were thinking of the overall cost of travel.
Post # 37
A Tuesday wedding that is not a destination is ridiculous UNLESS you are all from the same town/city and doing it somewhere convenient for your guests. Most people can’t take time off work like that, so even if you love the couple you may be prevented to attend. It’s just plain selfish.
Post # 38
I guess I have a different take on this sort of thing, since we were THIS close to signing off on a destination wedding, but things worked out differently (resort planner suddenly went MIA)…
A lot of destination packages have extremely cheap rates for weekday weddings and it saves the couple a lot of expenses and they can have a nice wedding for a lot cheaper than doing it locally. If we would have done a Destination Wedding where we wanted, it would have been on a Mon, Tues, Wed or Thurs. Weekends are reserved at many Destination Wedding sites for large parties of 150 +, since the weekend brings the most business.
I know some people see it as an ‘inconvenience’ when others do a Destination Wedding or when someone’s wedding doesn’t fit into every single guest’s personal schedule, but no matter what the reasoning, it is their wedding and what they chose is what they chose. Maybe a lot of guests like Vegas and they don’t mind staying extra days. Even if the actual date has no meaning to the groom, who knows, maybe it is special to the bride or her family.
Really though, as part of a couple that was heavily considering a destiation wedding, we were prepared for people to pull out last minute or not be able to come at all. If you really don’t want to do it or you don’t think it is worth using vacation days for, then just tell them it is out of the question. I am pretty sure that they booked on a Tuesday b/c it was cheaper and they thought it would cut down guest costs.