Post # 1
Sorry guys this is just a rant. I love my Fiance and we have been together for about 2.5 years. We are completely perfect for each other but completely opposite demographically. Different race, class, religion, nationality. The whole shebang. I would love to have a wedding, but just thinking about the potential drama and conflict gives me nausea. I would love to have a small wedding, but FI’s parents are taking an all or nothing approach (big wedding or nothing). ….. geez why things be simpler. For those of you who are in stressful wedding planning phases, how do you deal with it? By the way, I will be in graduate school and my Fiance will be in law school when this wedding planning will be taking place.
Post # 3
Can I ask if there’s a reason why you want to get married now? Maybe you could wait for a bit longer, save up some money and let things cool down while he’s in law school. Also, during that time, you’ll have plenty of time to iron out details for an inter-cultural wedding. I love those, they are so neat! Weddings don’t have to be stressful, everything is what you make it hun. Eloping is very romantic, just make sure you won’t regret it years down the road. I wish you luck in your situation and don’t rush into anything, when it’s meant to be, he’ll be there still.
Post # 4
We really don’t want/have to get married “right now.” To be honest, whether it was now or 5 years from now I wouldn’t want to spend the money. I hear what you’re saying about weddings not having to be stressful. I guess I am just thinking about the two weddings I helped plan (best friend and another friend) but I guess the two of them were drama queens in their own right…Thanks for the encouragement.
Post # 5
Make it romantic, make it about the two of you. Go somewhere beautiful. Wear a pretty dress. Have your hair done. Hire someone to take pictures. Breathe…
Okay, so it doesn’t help that I’m in the last eight weeks of my preparation. Take my advice with a grain of salt.
And honestly, if you would like a big wedding and just not the stress along with it, let someone else plan it for you. Some people love that stuff. Ask a family member for help or, if it’s affordable, hire someone.
Post # 6
Weddings can be beautiful, have lots of family and friends included and NOT be expensive. I am having a wedding with about 150-200 guests, and I am spending no more than $5000. (My wedding is next month, so I’m not exagerating). If you two are ready to be married and want to have a wedding then do it! But do it YOUR way, not the way anyone else wants it. It took me 11 months of planning to finally make my parents realize that this was MY wedding, not theirs and they have finally accepted that and are doing things the way we want them. It is really not that bad.
On the other hand. I have two very close friends that Eloped and they said it was the best desision they had ever made. They did what they wanted, where they wanted and how they wanted it. The wedding is whatever you guys want it to be.
Post # 7
If you want to elope, I say go for it! Go somewhere special to you two or someplace that you’ve both always wanted to go and do things exactly the way you want. If you don’t want a big wedding, don’t have one. Sometimes it’s hard for parents to realize, but it’s really not about them… it’s about you. Make yourselves happy.