- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2016
this is just a vent…
Recently engaged, just in the brainstorming stage of planning. Had an idea of renting a lovely manor home as a weekend venue. This would end up being casual yet classy.
My sister is known for being a snob (for no good reason, we grew up in the country w/o much $ so i dunno where this comes from). I’m home for Thxgiving right now, and got talking about my plans w her and my mom this evening. At every turn she is literally turning her nose up at my every idea and making snarky comments about my plans, friends, ability to pull it off, etc. She is jumping to a conclusion that there will be some kind of low class element to my wedding w her commentary, and maybe by her standards there will be but I just want a casual relaxing good time, not a lot of pomp and circumstance.
It started with her horror at the idea of friends who don’t fit in one of the place’s 12 bedrooms crashing in sleeping bags in the extra rooms (she gasped “nooo!”), progressed to her belittling my idea of not wanting to plan the wedding opposite a music fesitval my friends and i all go to every year as well as the fact that we go at all, pressing me about getting a DOC saying that if we don’t have one my SO and I at 1 am will be like “oops we didn’t say our vows,” denying taking any responsibility of any coordination on the day of, and ended w her horror-stricken face that I don’t want a fancy rehearsal dinner and am thinking of just grilling at the place the night before or something. All along the way she criticized my (completed uncemented) ideas and didn’t offer one positive comment. She also blatantly said she’s to be the maid of honor “right?”.
Well, after the final gasp and cringe at the grilling, I told her how I was feeling about her obvious distaste for everything (actually I warned her a few cringes earlier and said ‘let’s start over’ so she knew it was getting to me), and this triggered her to blow up and try to turn things around on me, like I did something wrong. She threw in all this other irrelevent bullshit and left screaming and crying, like the victim. She deined that she was against the grilling and said I put words in her mouth and then said I said that my dad and SO would be at the grill ‘like my HS graduation’ and threw in some snarky comments about me wanting ‘hot dogs and hamburgers’. I never said those specifics, and in fact I hate hot dogs (she likes them) and haven’t had a hamburger in a decade. She said I’m the one with issues and threw in that earlier in the day I stopped her from her continual bashing on her future in-laws (she’s also getting married and I’m the Maid/Matron of Honor..my wedding will be a full 14 months after hers) and said that I talked about mine. (When was that???)
Dreadful right? Her behavior is a frequent problem, as is her explicit snobbery. I’ll spare all the rest dirty details as this is long enough but ugh right. Just ugh.