(Closed) VENT: What the crap FI?!

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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875 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Your wedding isn’t until the end of July so I’m assuming your invites aren’t going out until the end of May/first of June? I know you said 4 relatives already said they won’t be coming but I’m sure you will have some more “no” RSVP’s and have enough favors, room for tables etc. My wedding is about a week after yours and I know it feel like “crunch time” right now and you are feeling stressed but honestly this is no big deal, it will work out. 🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@takemyhand:  ” Apparently Bob is his best friend that he never talks about and in two and a half years I have never met” HAHAHA Classic man move.  I’m waiting for a couple “Bobs” to come out of the woodwork, too.

Post # 6
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1281 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@takemyhand:  My Fiance has “Uncle Bobs”.  That relative that in 5 years I have never met but he is SOOO close with and has to invite. 

Post # 7
Hostess
16195 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Maybe make a rule about only one Bob? And is it possible to order a couple of extra invites as keepsakes?

Post # 8
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7649 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

We actually just had 4 BOBs (3 have +1 on them) come up the other night. Bob is one of FI’s best friends, but has never mentioned him until now :-/   ??

I have a lot of leeway with seating, favors, and meals so luckily this wasn’t a problem, but still irritating nonetheless when they are “best friends” but you’ve never heard of them until now. I can see how it would bother you.

Post # 9
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@takemyhand:  Darling Husband tried that with me too, but I was firm in my no. If the person had not walked through my doorway, or had a meal with me, they were not invited, end of story. Darling Husband and I have been together long enough that if in all that time, that person was not important enough to have been invited over, there was no way they were coming to the wedding. Be strong! LOL!

Post # 10
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1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Oh No!  I would be so frustrated!  Funny how they spring things like that  AFTER final counts…

Post # 11
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842 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I made the rule with my Fiance that if he hadn’t hung out with the person in the last year (and they were local), they didn’t get invited to the wedding.  He has some international friends he invited which I was fine with, especially because he talks to them regularly by email.  But he had a friend from HS whom I’ve never met he thought of inviting.  And another friend who he bought a Christmas present for in 2010, and hasn’t seen her to give it to her.  And she had the balls to ask if she was invited to the wedding.

If he wanted to regularly hang out with the those people and then invite them, fine.  But I was not cool with inviting people he rarely (if ever) talks to.  I don’t feel our wedding is the time or place to rekindle failing friendships. 

Post # 12
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94 posts
Worker bee

This kind of thing is just really annoying. I made my Fiance get all the addresses for his friends he wanted to invite. When I asked him who he wanted to invite he have me like 3 names. Then he handed me a list of addresses for like 10 people. WTH? He suddenly remembered that there were 7 people that HAD to be invited, very close friends I never see him hang out with. It’s a guy thing. I woulnd’t worry about it too much. I don’t think 1 more invite is worth the hurt feelings if you don’t invite someone he deems important.

Post # 13
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11419 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

If I were you, I would order/make a small number of additional (abeit slightly different-looking) invitations and send THOSE to your FI’s last-minute additions, and KEEP for yourself the one perfect one that you have remaining. It is really important that you have one of the ones that YOU love, to keep forever.

Post # 14
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4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

@Brielle:  Good point.

You may want extras anyway- for the photographer to take a photo of (don’t want to give him YOUR copy), and also in case invites get returned. (FSIL’s save the date came back, because neither Fiance or Future Mother-In-Law gave me the correct address for her!)

Post # 15
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242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh, boy, I am expecting some Bobs, too…I can only hope there aren’t too many!

Post # 16
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210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@bakerella:  *Applause* I wish my Fiance would go for that one.  We’re having a relatively small wedding (under 90 will be invited; I *hope* our final numbers will end up at 75 or fewer…), with mostly family to the 1st degree and close friends.  But FI’s parents have some requests for family friends I didn’t even know existed until we brought his parents into the guest list conversation.  We’ve been together almost 4 years now; I feel like if they aren’t important enough for me to have met them before now, they aren’t important enough to HAVE to be at our wedding.  But FI’s a pushover when it comes to his mom, unfortunately.  If we have any Bobs when it’s time to actually send out invites I might throw a fit.

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