(Closed) Vent: what's up with all the rude people?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Blushing bee

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MrsYellowDaffodil:  NO way! “How is your child bride doing”?! 

Post # 17
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Honey bee

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ChrissyMary9515:  me too! We will be having our wedding the sunday of labor day weekend…kinda like a last end of summer celebration 🙂

Post # 18
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Blushing bee

We haven’t had TOO many people be rude but I have noticed a few things.

1. We picked June 2017 and when we tell people they are like WHY 2017?!?!?!?! Why in June?!?! I want you to get married NOW.

Okay, thanks for loving us and wanting us to get married now but we picked 2017 because that is what WE want. What a concept.

2. Her mom hasn’t said a THING about the wedding. She hasn’t asked for a single detail, said congratulations, nothing. And we see her frequently. You’d think she’d be somewhere interested in her only daughters marriage.

So annoying! People just need to butt out lol

Post # 19
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Bumble bee

Everyone on my FI’s team at work are close to retirement age, so like all but 2 have been divorced at least once (3 have been divorced twice!!). So when word got out that we were engaged, for WEEKS he would hear stuff like “the first marriage is always the most exciting” , “I know a good divorce lawyer”, “make sure you sign a pre-nup!”, “I give this one 2 years” etc etc. I mean.. I get that they’re old and bitter, I get that they’re joking, and I get that divorce happens a lot, but it made Fiance really uncomfortable and put a damper on the first few weeks of our engagement for him. Like, why you gotta be like that people?

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

My mom is my best friend, so i vent alot. Even though she loves me and my Fi, she always comments with “Are you sure you want to marry him?”

Yup mom, pretty for certain on this one. I love her, but yeah, no.

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Fiance got the knocked up question, possibly because we got engaged after only a year.

Another “friend” asked if my ring was real. She had just had a fight with her now ex-husband, so I do not think she was thinking clearly.

My sister sent us an article about how to save money on our wedding. Her wedding was VERY inexpensive (I’m talking JOP and Mexican food) and not at all what we want for ours. 

I’m sure they all meant well…

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I was going to scope out an apartment, and the lady showing it to me asked how much money my parents were giving me for the wedding and who was paying for what… I was really taken aback.

Granted, she was a Chinese immigrant and she was asking because she is trying to learn American customs and wanted to know what she should give when her son gets married. I tried my best to explain the “traditions” but advised that a lot of people don’t follow those rules nowadays.

 

Post # 23
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Honey bee

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mnbrides08:  “Why June 2017?”…hahaha…I’m sure if you picked some random Saturday night in October, somebody will be bound to say “October 14th? Oh no! But that’s bingo night and spaghetti dinner night at the town hall center!” … Geez, people and their special requests…hahaha 😄

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Post # 24
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Blushing bee

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socalgirl1689:  I know! I can’t even handle the crazy sometimes! Lol

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

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minniegrace:  If I were you and your Fiance, I would have been really annoyed too.  But being on the outside and reading some of those comments, I’m sitting here chuckling… “first one is always the most exciting!”

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

You answered your own question. People are rude.

I got married in my in-laws big house, Saturday afternoon. It was all done by 5pm. Just eating and socializing, no DJ. A girl I worked with said it was rude not to have dancing and drinking (even though there was alcohol available, no dancing), because you have to show your guests a good time, that is why they give you a gift.

I thought it was rude, maybe others would agree with her.

 

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

I’ll confess to asking the “expecting” question. A friend of mine informed me he’d proposed to his girlfriend and they had the wedding date set for 16 months away. 2 months later I get a text from him telling me the wedding was gonna be in 12 weeks. Turns out they were tired of planning a wedding and just wanted to get married, but the fact the moved it up so close and so quickly did make me wonder if there was a little bundle of a reason. He didn’t seem annoyed, but looking back I can see that was a silly assumption on my part.

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - Pantagis Renaissance

I luckily haven’t gotten too many rude questions.. FI and I were dating for six years beforehand so we got a lot of “FINALLY” remarks which were more cute than annoying lol 

Also we’re waiting until I graduate and get work before we marry so we’re thinking of a 2019 wedding (time well spent to plan and save not just for a wedding, but for a marriage) and we’ve gotten some “if you’re waiting so long to get married why didn’t you just wait to get engaged” which to me is just none of their business…

Part of the reason I guess is because we’re a bit older (I’m 25, he’s 24…7 months younger) and by the time we get married we’ll be around 29…which is scary to think about lol 

Post # 29
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Newbee

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bridetobee528:  Wow! Totally rude. It’s your choice and your wedding. You should be able to do whatever you want. Are these people that are invited to the wedding? If so maybe ‘forget’ to send them an invite 

Post # 30
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Helper bee

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bridetobee528:  Yeah, people are assholes. Here are some of my favorites:

Oh! So you’re getting married soon? Don’t you want to lose weight first?

Do you have a dress yet? *shows picture* It’s beautiful! What kind of diet are you planning on using?

 

Really. The weight comments?! I’m not a stick person, but I’m not massive either. Even if I WAS massive, back the F* off of me. I am who I am, and obviously both me and Fiance (now hubband) are both cool with that. Pshhh *finger snaps*

 

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