(Closed) Vent: what's up with all the rude people?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - Pantagis Renaissance

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minniegrace:  we got that a lot too! I almost forgot… my fiancé also got a lot of “I’m sorry”s and stuff like that. I personally don’t find jokes like that funny.. If marriage is so horrible why did you get married then? Yuck. 

Post # 32
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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bridetobee528:  Why do people say incredibly rude things all the time??? Those comments are annoying, but just the tip of the iceberg. Next comes the comments about your marriage, about having children, how to raise them, blah blah. I’m 4 months pregnant and people just seem to love to ask “Was it planned?” Why the f*** does it matter? Yeah, we planned to have sex without protection and hope it led to procreation, but people would be totally disgusted if I responded that way, but it’s what you’re asking me!! A friend who says she doesn’t want children for a few more years (no biggie, who cares?) likes to bash people who want to have them sooner (*ahem* me) and say all these things. I just want to look at her and tell her to shhhhh….it’s getting old.

Post # 33
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Haha, I recently had a ‘friend’ ,who hasn’t spoken to me or FH for two years, ask to be a bridesmaid…. she wasn’t even on the guest list!

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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bridetobee528:  I can’t lie.. I would give you a couple of blank stares at the 11 bridesmaids…hahaha

 

Post # 35
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Sugar Beekeeper

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Chance99:  Un-beeeleevable ……the sheer insolence of it !!!!

actually ETA, I can really hardly believe the amazing and appalling things people  have had said to them. I don’t move in very socially   superior  circles    but I can’t imagine anyone I know saying anything like  this stuff. 

All of you , congratualtions  on your weddings ( no matter what damn day of the year)  and on your gracious and  humourous  handling of this crap!

Post # 36
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Blushing bee

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bridetobee528:  LOL yup! Welcome to the club 🙂  There’s my coworker that he and I do almost all our projects together and just started a few months ago… asks me here and there why he wasn’t invited. Mind you, I’ve been engaged since Feb 2014 but met him only a few months back!

Post # 37
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Sugar bee

And the people who say ridiculous things always seem to be the ones who don’t contibute a cent, for your wedding costs, or who had a much simpler wedding. I.e. the cousin who complains to you at your reception, who had a secret elopement, and spend $0 for hosting guests. Or the aunt who complains “chicken again” at your formal/evening wedding when they served sandwhiches and chips, at her daughter’s evening wedding. And then there’s the grandmother who wants to add estranged/distant relatives, to your small guest list, because she things the primary purpose of weddings are bringing famililes together. And then there’s the grumblers, who complain that kids aren’t invited. No, at $100 a head, we’re not inviting 100 more guests under 21. 

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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Chance99:  OMG I get this all the time too! Mind you, I’m 115lbs. I didn’t plan on losing any weight for the wedding and my Fiance specifically asked me not to. But anytime I’m offered a piece of cake or something, someone will chime in “She’s got a dress to fit into!” and I’ll ususally reply with “YUP, and I’ll take 2 pieces”. When I first got engaged I cannot believe how many people asked “So how much weight are you planning to lose? Are you joining a gym?” um, nope, thanks. I can’t tell you how many times I get side eye when grabbing a slice of pizza and then conveniently dress fittings are brought up. Like, me: *scarfs down a pepperoni* aunt: “Sooo… when is your next dress fitting?”

Puh-lease.

Post # 39
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Helper bee

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ChrissyMary9515:  ARRGGG I’m getting annoyed FOR you! It’s obnoxious, isnt it?! I guess eating like a normal person and not killing yourself at the gym to “fix yourself” isnt bridal… who knew. Good for you for not backing down!! I’m a grown-ass woman, damnit! If I want to eat some icecream once in a while, then thats just what I’ll do. 

I honestly did want to lose a few pounds before the wedding, but I decided not to worry about it after all of the comments. I really cannot stand the pressure people place on women to look a certain way.  Heavier, thin, green, blue, whatever;  weight doesnt define a person.

It absolutely AMAZES me what some people feel is appropriate to say to another human being. 

Post # 40
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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bridetobee528:  I’ve gotten the “what meals are you serving” question, the “how many people have RSVP’d so far” question, and a few other things that make me feel like people are evaluating how nice my event might be.  If it’s not up to your calibur – DON’T COME!

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Not only did I get the “are you pregnant?” but some of my relatives assuming that I must be pregnant, suggesting empire-waist gowns and and asking me, “Would you like me to host the baby shower for you?” etc.

Or, from his rich relatives, “You can’t make a wedding happen with only $15K! It’s going to be a disaster!” Actually, yes, you can, and yes, we did. Their matriarch (FIL’s aunt) and my Mother-In-Law later apologized to me, saying they stood corrected and had so much fun…

Post # 43
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - The White Barn

My best friend wants to plan her wedding (when she gets engaged) on the 4th of July because all of her other family members have gotten married on holidays and I don’t think it’s bad. I think it is a cute idea lol.

Post # 44
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Sugar Beekeeper

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ChrissyMary9515:  So funny  – yep give me two more pieces , I’ve a  way to go yet to get into it .

Post # 45
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Bee Keeper

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DanaWeddingGuest:  you should tell this coworker that when SHE has her wedding, SHE should hire a DJ so SHE can show HER guests a good time (and she has the nerve to call you the rude one!) 😀

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