(Closed) Vent: what's up with all the rude people?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Carmen\'s Lakeview

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bridetobee528:  I’ve gotten allll of these! People just feel so entitled when anyone says they’re getting married.

Post # 47
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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ChrissyMary9515:  I was the most slender/healthy I’d been in a long time leading up to the wedding and people would stop me when I’d be eating dessert or carbs or something and say ‘uh oh, make sure you can still fit into your dress!’ …………….WHAT!? I literally got that 5-10 times from different people and they were SERIOUS! People are insane. 

Other faves (eye roll) were, ‘how much are you spending on your wedding? i bet it’s a lot!’, ‘there’s no way your diamond is real’, ‘now when are you going to have kids?! we’re not getting any younger!’. OMG! I legit would just stare in shock, because how do you respond to that much rude?!

Post # 48
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

The day I came back to work after our honeymoon I had a coworker as me if I was pregnant yet. 

Although he is the one who’s been asking me since the day I started working there when I was getting married and having kids. 

My aunt is also constantly bringing up I need to start having babies and even wrote it in out guest book (she didn’t start until 5+ years after being married)  

Although I have to say my rudest comment was “my wife says your Venue looks ghetto-y”. 

Post # 49
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Newbee

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sunfl0wergirl:  wow from people younger? Lol. That’s annoying. iM older then my friends I’m 24. And Two of my friends who are both 20 years old were married this summer. So im pretty jealous lol 

Post # 50
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Busy bee

Some people just love finding something negative to say when you have a happy occasion. I realised those people I dont need in my life anymore. I dont understand how they feel comfortable asking blunt, unnecessary questions and commenting on things that are none of their business.

When someone talks about their wedding and them getting married, wouldnt you feel the need to congratulate and be happy for them? Why do people go the other way? Its pretty frustrating. 

I also learned to NEVER talk about your details to those kind of people. NEVER. if they ask nosy questions about the wedding just give them short answers and change to subject.

Post # 51
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Busy bee

My fiance and I are having a long engagement (two years). Ive known him for the past 5 and we got engaged a month ago. For some reason I get the “Oh god are you gana last 2 years? Ill give it a year” type of comments. Those. Really?  

 

Post # 53
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Worker bee

The worst things said often come from people involved in the wedding. What I’ve had to deal with

– Being guilt-tripped about the time between the end of ceremony and reception (1.5 hrs due to timing at the church).

– Being told that our wedding theme doesn’t apply to certain aspects of the wedding.

– Trying to talk us out of things we want.

– Being told or favors weren’t enough.

– Generally being made to feel like our day is more about the guests than us.

Post # 54
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Worker bee

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ChrissyMary9515:  I just tell people I’m on a special diet where I eat whatever I want and never gain any weight! Lol! I’m 5’4″ and 115 lbs. I eat well mostly, but you won’t catch me turning down dessert. I also work out at regularly: Not to lose or maintain weoght, just for strength and health. 

Post # 55
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Worker bee

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bridetobee528:  Getting married on a holiday weekend doesn’t really ruin anyone else’s weekend, but I would be prepared for people to not come if they usually have other plans for that holiday. And, while it might not be the case for Memorial Day, there’s a chance people will forget your Anniversary every year because it falls on a holiday. My Aunt and Uncle got married on Christmas Eve, and they get angry that people forget.

Post # 56
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

Yeah… most people in my experience are lovely.  “Congratulations!” “that’s so exciting!” “high five!” “Tell (FI) it’s about time!” 😛 

But, there are a few interesting ones here and there…

Post # 57
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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loudsilence99:  I got strange questions about my “huge” wedding, which ended up being around 125 people.  I’m thinking have you ever BEEN to a wedding before?  Especially from certain people who thought that everyone THEY know should be invited…ok, so them F everyone else on the other side?  Well gee, I guess so!

I do agree that people see an engagement and wedding planning gives some people the impression that they can say and do anything they want, and THEN what is most frustrating is them saying that I “had to” do this or that, yet I had to keep a smile on my face otherwise I was a bridezilla for not liking their incessantly ignorant comments and questions?  yeah, ok…

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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vintagekitten:  haha nope.  The question was asked by one of the secretaries where I work.  

Post # 59
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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Lovelymeex:  Yeah, a girl I work with is a year younger, doesn’t have any…suitors? My fiance and I have been together for most of the last 8 years. It’s totally ridiculous that we’d get married. *cannot roll eyes far enough back into head*

Post # 60
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Newbee

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gymbunny04:  

Other faves (eye roll) were, ‘how much are you spending on your wedding? i bet it’s a lot!’, ‘there’s no way your diamond is real’, ‘now when are you going to have kids?! we’re not getting any younger!’

all of these and the “so are you pregnant”

So here are my wonderful answers to all.

how much- “about $3,000….I’d rather buy a house than a wedding”

You’re ring can’t be real- “you’re right it’s not, does that make me less of a person? Besides ive already lost it several times. I don’t want a real one”

Kids- “probably 9 months after I get pregnant, as long as Im able to get pregnant”

not getting any younger-“how long did it take you to calculate that one.” I’m 26 I think I’ll be okay.

so you’re pregnant-“no actually Fiance have decided (gasp) to wait until we’re married to have sex, oh I’m sorry was that tmi? Maybe you shouldnt ask personal questions”

 

(gotten ^that one the most because we planned our wedding to be less than 3 months after we got engaged. tip, it’s not because I’m pregnant it’s because I want to start practicing getting pregnant ;);) )

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