(Closed) VENT: Why does changing your name after marriage suck so much?

posted 4 years ago in Names
Post # 46
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

I’ve been married for ten months and STILL haven’t changed everything! I only did my health card and age of majority card (I don’t drive, and in Canada this card is the ‘equivilent’ level of ID because not all places can take your health card and it’s a pain to use Passport for everything) and a few membership cards. The reason I am dragging my feet on banking and my social insurance is because it is SUCH a pain in the ass! Plus Canada doesn’t issue physical SIN cards anymore…so I’d be giving up that ‘convenience’. Also, I am worried I’ll be given a hard time when I change my Morgage and deed to my condo.

But now I have to get a move on because I’m pregnant, and I don’t want my maiden name to be on my baby’s birth certificate…I know it doesn’t really matter, but it matters to ME!

Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

It’s been a considerable pain but the part I’m least impressed with is that I have to pay for a whole new passport and photos and do the full application again, even though my passport has 2 years left until it expires. 

Post # 48
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Bee Keeper

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FantasticFawn :  On “Friends” Phoebe and Mike were able to quickly and easily able to change their names legally to Princess Consuela Banana-Hammock and Mike Crap-Bag. Now that I’m going through the same b.s. you are, I feel totally misled!

Post # 49
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

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snowflake8 :  Banking wasn’t too bad for me, but I haven’t done SIN yet. Why would they put the baby’s birth cert in your maiden name though? Wouldn’t you be able to choose? I’m pregnant too, so just wondering. I have done my Health Card, Bank Accounts, Credit Cards and am currently dragging my feet on passport, SIN and CRA. 

Post # 50
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Honey bee

Gotta say, I found the process to be very easy, but I work in compliance so procedures are my bread and butta. I just went to the social security office during lunch at a non-busy time and was in and out in about 30 min. I did the same with the DMV, and again, done in 30 min. We opened new joint bank accounts so that was all pretty painless too, and random things like passports, credit cards, etc. I just did on an as needed basis. Like I left my passport alone until I actually needed it updated, then I dealt with that. I found that doing the required stuff first and then handling the rest on sort of a sliding scale of urgency made it pretty painless. If one day I logged into some account and saw my old last name, I just fixed it then and went on my merry way.

Post # 51
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Bumble bee

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peegee :  I’ve been wondering about my passport too.  Couldn’t we just delay that until it expires and use it as-is?  As long as the airline tickets are booked in the name on the passport, wouldn’t it work?  Would hate to try this and find out I’m wrong though!

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meandmrbee15 :  Wow, your Darling Husband is a keeper!

Post # 52
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

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anothernewbee16 :  From what I’ve read you can do it technically, but you may run into trouble flying internationally where they have very strict rules sometimes, I’m not sure if they would be able to see your married name somehow by looking you up or what? I would think if the tickets were booked in your maiden name it should be okay but I’m not sure. 

Post # 53
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Busy bee

Can’t you do a lot of that stuff on line now? I didn’t realize it was still such a headache. Myself and a lot of my friends didn’t change our names, all the work was one of my reasons.

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