(Closed) VENT: sister wants to get married the same weekend as my wedding

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Wow! I can’t believe she booked hers for the day after. That is horrible. i would be SSSOOO pissed.  so sorry

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

omg i cant believe she did that, You have every right to be mad!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

The day after?! How does she think she’ll have time for a rehearsal and everything else when she will be in/at your wedding the day before? She’s crazy! 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Woah Nellie, that’s a bit unfair! I think a family talk is urgently needed. You and your FH need to talk to your family and explain why it’s hard for your sister to get married the day after you. Also doesn’t it take off the gloss off her special day a bit?

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

That is CRAZY!!! I would beat up my sister if she did that!!! And scold my parents for paying for her craziness!!!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

It is not only unfair to you but also to your family.  They are going to busy the few months leading up to your wedding and to have to pull double duty is hard on everyone.  Also, what about the guests that will be invited to both weddings.  Really unfair to ask them to attend showers/rehearsal dinners and weddings within the same time frame… and pay for gifts, hotel rooms clothing etc. etc.

I think you’re parents need to convince her to wait at least a month.  Good Luck!

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am sorry you are having to go through this. In My Humble Opinion, from what you have indicated here, she seems to be a very selfish person. I agree that you have every right to be upset.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

WOW! I can’t believe this, why would your sister want to have her wedding the day after yours?  Can you not have the weekend to yourself?  I would be so mad if my sister tried to pull this!  I’m sorry, but I think that is so inconsiderate!  Especially since she knows you pushed your wedding back so you wouldn’t interfere with a family members wedding but she decides to choose the same weekend?!?! Who does stuff like this?  I’m sorry to hear this…

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

Wow that is messed up!  Does she have a history of doing things like this?

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

It is not selfish of you AT ALL to not want to change your plans! ESPECIALLY if you’ve already made deposits and such!!

This is a situation where I believe you have every right to turn BRIDEZILLA

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would killl her!! the day after?!?!?! no way could that work! thats ur weekend

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t think you’re being selfish at all. I set my date way back in July and if my sister were to get engaged tonight I know she wouldn’t dare ask to get married anywhere near the date that I’m marrying Mr Moo. You’re parents are going to be partying with you and then go to see your sister get married the next day? Your friends and family are going to bring down two sets of gifts, and deal with two weddings in 1 weekend? I realise that hotels and businesses do this all the time but a wedding can be a hugely emotionally draining affair – both good and sad sometimes (which dad wants to say goodbye to his daughter and put her life in another man’s hands after all?) and having 2 weddings in a weekend just sounds way too much to me. 

I still think a family talk is needed. You need to voice your opinion and let your family know how you feel. Maybe she wants to share in your wedding wonder and that’s why she chose the same weekend.

ETA : I just realised how very judgemental I sound above. I don’t mean to be. I’m just a bit appalled at the thought of someone’s sister getting married literally the day after! There’s desperate and then there’s DESPERATE you know what I mean? 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

WOW that is just insane!

What is she thinking? Why wouldn’t she want her own time also?

You are NOT being selfish by wanting to keep your appointments on the DAY of your wedding and your rehearsal dinner the day before!!!! I sometimes think brides are selfish wanting a month or a season etc. but you are allowed to want your wedding weekend!!!!!!!

Have you confronted her about it – what does she say? What are her reasons for wanting to get married the same weekend?

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