Post # 1
My Fiance and I were going over some wedding day details last night and we got in a huge argument about something.
My Mom has bunco friends and a few of them are very experienced in catering. As in serving and cleaning up and what not. So a few of them volunteered to work, as clean-up crew, so they could go to the wedding. Otherwise they wouldn’t under normal circumstances, be invited.
My Fiance made a great point last night. These people volunteered so they can come party with my Mom, and of course, clean up. But… there are Family that we aren’t able to invite because of our budget AND because if you invite one you have to invite 50… because that small portion of the family is HUGE! Thats a whole other story though.
My Mom has good intentions because if we don’t get the bunco girls help with table and trash clean-up, who would do it? We would have to pay someone to do it. That’s not in the budget.
I’m just confused by the whole thing. I COMPLETELY get why they are REALLY there but can’t pin down a solution to keep the place clean during the reception AND not have to pay someone.
Post # 3
Well, if your only 2 options are having them come & do the clean up, or paying someone (which you said you can’t afford), I guess it just seems like a moot point.
Post # 5
I’m not sure what you were planning to do for cleanup otherwise? What is the alternative to having your mother’s friends cleanup? I assume that you aren’t having a caterer, since they would do their own cleanup, right?
Post # 6
My wedding is in a backyard. The caterer only cleans up their area.
Post # 7
So it seems there really isn’t a solution… we use them or we don’t and pay someone…
Post # 8
Or you can ask everyone (or a few VERY good friends) to pitch in? Even though you’re technically not paying your mom’s friends, you’ll still have to feed them. Maybe you can get some neighborhood kids to pick up for a small amount of money?
Post # 9
I’d use them. We are paying A LOT of money for experienced staff to bus our tables for us and help with food. I did not feel comfortable asking our friends and fam to help. I would still write some sort of contract through and review with them so that they understand thier duties. It seems too casual an agreement to me. You are def paying less to serve them diner than you would to pay for service staff for the night is my guess. I know some ppl pay high school students which might be easier for you to do, but me? I wanted people who knew what they were doing.