(Closed) Vent:I feel like I am getting scammed when it comes to wedding planning

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
Member
689 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I agree. I’m only using one single professional and my budget is still at $10k. Its insane!

Post # 4
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Anything to do with weddings is overpriced and ridiculous. Unless you plan to purchase things wholesale and DIY you really don’t have a choice…and I’m not a DIY type of person.

I hear you loud and clear!

Post # 5
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2580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Weddings are big business. It’s a huge industry, and when people are willing to pay top dollar for services, businesses can charge a lot.

How long do you have until your wedding? If you have time, the internet can be a bride’s best friend. Do research, contact every reputable vendor you can find, and get as many quotes as possible. It is time consuming, but I found it worth it to shop around and pick some things to compromise on–I couldn’t get the top of the line vendors at a low price in every category, so I budgeted more for the vendors I felt were more important and found lesser known (read: cheaper) vendors in the other categories.

Also, if you have any friends who recently got married and you think they may have had a similar budget, ask for recommendations and if they’re willing to share, find out what they paid.

Post # 6
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2247 posts
Buzzing bee

Yeah, I have felt this way before, too.  I guess, the way you have to look at it is that this is how those people make their money.  Photography is expensive because it costs a lot to pay for those cameras and lenses, film, etc.  I DO think that some vendors hike prices up when they hear that you’re getting married.  Especially when it comes to cakes. 

I’ve decided I will be ordering a two-tier cake from a cake designer that a family friend knows, but I WILL NOT be telling her it’s a wedding cake.  She’ll probably do it for less than $100 if she doesn’t know that it’s for a wedding.  If she does, it’d probably be about $150- $200. 

As far as flowers go, I don’t think you can ever win with that.  I’ve decided to go the route of silk florals, and it’s probably equally expensive (for quality silks) when all is said and done.  Seriously.  I paid $5 a piece for single, silk sunflowers.  I only bought enough to do my BMs bouquets, so I’m not sure how much this is gonna end up costing me in the end. 

I don’t know whether or not I’ll be having my hair and makeup done professionally, or not.  My hair is very finicky, so I might have to have it done.  But, I can do my own makeup and my BMs have easy hair that they can do.

As for the food, it’s definitely jacked up for weddings.  To eat at the restuarant where I’m having my reception, the average entree is about $13.  They’re charging me at least $30 PP (without drinks, or any other inclusions) for our wedding.  The room fees are also higher than they would be for say, a company party.

Post # 8
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10714 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I feel ya! I just got a quote today for $26 per tablecloth RENTAL… I could buy fabric and make them for the same price and then sell them… ugh.

I got lucky with flowers though. I found a small town flower shop and she’s doing my bouquet, my 4 bridesmaids bouquets, 5 bouts, the flower girls petals the ring bearers wreath and all the willow branches for our 15 centerpieces at $300.

Post # 9
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5668 posts
Bee Keeper

I feel this way about pretty much everything but the photography. The only wedding things that make it past the day are the photographs and the rings. I don’t really have a problem “investing” money into them to make sure they’re what I want.

Post # 11
Member
10714 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

@jackndiane: I know how you feel… I had a hard time trying to find a photographer… then when I said my price cap is $800 take it or leave it they came back around and said they’d do it for $800. They originally were asking $2500. I think I should go into the wedding business.

Post # 12
Member
689 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think my main motto for the wedding is- if I can’t use it afterwards, I can do without. Instead of renting plates, I’m collecting mismatched china from Goodwill. On sale (which is 1-2 times a month) they’re only 25 cents each. Way, way cheaper than renting and who needs to register for china when you already have it? Making my own linens and using it afterwards. All of my centerpieces are going to be glass jars and such that my family and I are saving. I’m making fabric flowers and filling it in with clouds of super cheap baby’s breath. 80 bucks for a 100 stems at Costco’s.

Post # 14
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1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My advice is don’t look at limos!  As soon as I said “wedding”, four hours’ limo service went from $400-500 to $1200.  Because the driver will be in a tux and roll out a red carpet and have a bottle of champagne and fluff my dress as I walk out.  No one will see the driver, I don’t care if he’s in sweatpants.  I’m a bride, not Angelina Jolie, and I don’t need a red carpet.  I can bring my own champagne. And fluffing the dress is what I have bridesmaids and my mother for.  I do not need the driver’s assistance with that.

Flowers are obscene too. I did find that Wegman’s doesn’t seem to jack up their prices at the mention of “wedding”, so if you have one near you, investigate that option.  And “floating” centerpieces are a non-crafty bride’s DIY dream- cheap silks look great puffed up in water, vase sets are cheap on Amazon (I got 2 sets of 36 vases each, with 2 day shipping, for under $300) WITH floating candles, and they’re a breeze to assemble if your venue is just willing to fill them with water and light the candles.  Either let people take them home or sell them afterward.

 

Post # 15
Member
1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Agreed! Photography costs were the first thing that shocked me…

Post # 16
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2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I hear you on the high cost of weddings these days…I spent about 10-12k on ours but we still managed to have a dinner reception with tons of fresh flowers and a pro photog that cost us 3300$. I honestly think this is a big reason DIY is so popular these days!

As far as photography being super expensive, it is really expensive to run a photography business, so a legitimate photographer is going to cost you more. 30 percent of the fee automatically goes to three different taxes we have to file and that doesn’t count health insurance and 401k for photographers who are solely self employed. You also have to consider that not only does a photographer work a potentially 10-12 hour day the day of your wedding, but he or she also works probably a total of at least 40 hours on your wedding from start to finish (consultations, emails, phone calls, editing, creating packaging, blogging, etc). 

Keep in mind photographers are small business owners and need to support our families! We would not stay in business very long without accurate pricing. 

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