- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2017
Hey fellow bees,
Im feeling really guilty about this, so I thought it would be best to post here instead of causing real drama on the home front.
My fiances parents arent contributing anything to the wedding. Mainly because they have their own budget issues to deal with, and only partly because their parents didnt help them out with their wedding back in the day.
My parents are contributing a set dollar amount, which will equal one-third to one-half of the cost of the wedding, depending how much we actually spend.
For most things, whether it be cake, photographer, wedding venue, etc, I have asked my parents opinions because they are contributing to the wedding. My parents havent been controlling at all, and leave all the final decisions up to us.
My fiance also asks his parents about everything also, and his mom always responds with some sort of opinion of her own. She is a nice lady, but her taste is far from mine, and she is always concerned about prices of things and recommends we go with whatever is cheapest, on everything.
I know that this is probably completely selfish, but I dont really want the opinions of FIs mom, and I know they cant contribute any money, but I think my parents are entitled to give their five cents because they giving a large gift to help pay. I know I dont have to listen to her opinions either, but it bugs me that my fiance is always saying *let me ask my parents first*. Maybe he just wants other opinions also, because we are paying also for the wedding, but it makes me feel guilty when we make complete opposite decisions of what his mother offers. I dont like feeling that I have to make his parents happy, along with my parents, and my fiance while choosing what I want also. I also dont like that her advice to choose the cheapest everything (its only one day speech), because we have a decent budget that allows us to choose nicer things if we want them. Its not like she has offered to help plan anything either, where at least my mother has been offering to make phone calls and set up appointments for me. I dont want to bring it up to my fiance, because its selfish to tell him not to ask his parents opinions.
I guess this is just letting off some steam…its hard enough pleasing yourself and your fiance. lol