(Closed) Venting about my Mom…. LONG

posted 11 years ago in Family
Post # 3
276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Hugs!  I’m sorry there was so much added stress on your wedding day!  It does sound like your mom at least had some good intentions, whhat with taking a flower design course so she could help you out.   As long as you’re not holding any of this against her, I would try to let it go.  The hive is always here when you need a good vent!

Post # 4
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2007 - Hyatt Lodge, Oak Brook IL

ohh noo, I’m so bummed to read about your experience and your less than helpful mom… I know there is nothing you can do to change it, but at least you got it off your chest! I think you are completely justified in how you feel, and I know I would be incredibly disappointed if I were in your shoes! Any chance you can sit down with you mom and talk about it? Or would that make things worse all around?

Post # 6
2029 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m so sorry! You must have been crushed. My mom was also less-than-helpful on the wedding weekend. I think I just expected too much from her. I forget that she is getting older, doesn’t know how to navigate the city, and that her memory isn’t what it used to be. I think seeing our mom’s failures is maybe part of growing up and seeing them as real people. It took me a while to get over it but the hurt healed with time. I hope you and your mom can repair your relationship. Maybe you could go out to lunch and you could talk about one of the things that hurt you (like that she didn’t care when she tore your dress). I wouldn’t barrage her with every thing, but maybe if it is just one thing she will feel bad and apologize. I think you could also ask her to pay to have the tear repaired (if you plan to keep or sell your dress). I hope it all works out for you and her 🙂

Post # 7
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

My parents were the biggest stressor on my big day, too. In fact, they were late to my rehearsal, my dinner, and made me 30 minutes late for my own wedding. Granted, we were supposed to arrive 1.5 hours early, but I’m still mad we didn’t get outdoor pictures b/c they weren’t responsible enough to have showered and gotten dressed more than 30 minutes before we walked out the door.

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