(Closed) Venting about RSVPS

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

70%!? How long did they have to respond? That is just crazy! I would track them down via email, phone or Facebook (for the young’uns). Good luck!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My deadline is saturday and only 70 RSVP out of 220 people.  I would get FI to call  and facebook his family (most of his are the ones that didn’t RSVP) and I will call and Facebook my family.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My deadline is tomorrow and I’m still missing many RSVPs, too.  I’ll give everyone the rest of the week, and then I’ll divide the list of RSVP offenders next Sunday.  My mom will handle her guests, I will handle mine, FI his, and FI’s mom hers.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’ve been getting a pretty steady flow of RSVPs so far, but we half jokingly decided that people who don’t respond will not be assigned to a table, nor will they be receiving a meal.  We’ll have additional space, so we’ll set up an un-numbered table in the back, and we are also serving light appetizers during cocktail hour.  So they will have a place to sit & will be able to grab a quick nibble, but we aren’t going to bend over backwards to track people down.  We already addressed and stamped an envelope.  They only have to pick a meal, seal it, and drop it in the box!  How hard can that be?!?

ETA- oops, forgot to mention that our deadline is August 1st, so we will wait until probably the following week to start a seating chart- assuming some guests don’t send the reply until the RSVP date.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Mine’s next week and I now have 6/50.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think you should wait a few days before contacting people.  I received a bunch after my deadline.  I think a lot of people remember to send their response the day it’s due.  I’m sure they’ll come in!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My family WONT RSVP… I just know it

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wow! I guess I’m doing ok then, although I’m still annoyed. Our RSVP date is also today and I’m still waiting on 28 people out of over 200.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ugh, we had about 40% not respond, and it was pretty aggravating.  We contacted people the day after the deadline, since we had less than a week to let the caterer’s know.  We sent a facebook message to most of them (since we knew most of them went on there often).  The rest were older extended relatives or family friends, and we had parents call those folks.  We got a response back from everyone we contacted within a few days.  Annoying, but we got our numbers in! 

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Saw another post that said they just mass e-mail/message saying “hi, noticed we haven’t gotten your rsvp back blah blah blah *here’s the key* please let us know as soon as possible or we will assume you’re not coming”

I really wished someone would have warned me how stressful managing the guest list is!! It is hands down the WORST part of wedding planning ever.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Any way you can.

Divide them up, and start calling and sending emails and text messages. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I contacted them all. Super annoying. The worse ones are those that should know better. Sometimes I think it’s payback from their weddings.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am trying to keep my wedding at 100 people max.  It’s amazing how people do not RSVP.  If someone takes the time to send you an invitation, how hard is it to take a moment to respond?  I’m going to be strict on my deadlines!  And since the people we are inviting are people we keep in touch with regularly, they will be made aware of the date and will have time to plan.

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