(Closed) Venting about SIL (a little long)

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It sounds like you should shrug it off as fi said. Some people just are the way they are and being bothered by things won’t change anything. They sound a little self absorbed so I would post your announcements of Facebook the way that they do. It might make an impression on them so that they will think next time. Sometimes someone may come from a family that just isn’t close so their unfamiliar with what families are supposed to do. Honestly I would just ignore the drama.

Post # 4
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5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

holy cow.  She sounds like an attention ho.  Not everything in the world revolves around her.  She needs to step back.

Ignore them.

Post # 5
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1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Your SIL sounds a little…off. 

She also sounds really insecure, so I’d just ignore it for now. She’ll have her baby keeping her really busy and once she maybe feels more part of the family she can relax a bit.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wow. You certainly can’t choose your family…yikes, she sounds like a nightmare. My best advice is to just ignore her and Brother-In-Law to the extent possible. If they act like children and attention whores, then the best thing to do is to just refuse to buy in – by either attacking back, being nice, or in any way letting their bad behavior go rewarded with attention. Go on living your life, doing the things that you want, and don’t base your decisions on them at all. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2016

Haha I know how you feel. We found out on FB as well with Fiance Brother that they were engaged and we lived with them!We had to push back our date from this past Mar. but our new date has been set since last Aug. and they JUST chose their’s for a cpl weeks ahead of ours even though family will have to travel. They were not ever going to marry but after I got my ring upgrade,she bought her one and said “we didnt say anything to anyone bc we dont wanna steal your spotlight” but you out it on FB.   I dont care really about the date but it will be hard for everyone to travel,granted its only 4 hrs away(we live about 20 min away from them). Oh! and the fact that she wanted to wear an ivory lace dress to our wedding or the same one as Maid/Matron of Honor  and I am wearing white and lace to mine. We are not “welcome” at theirs though. She even took my winter idea and colors so I changed them,didn’t tell her and no longer sharing S*** with her lol! So I feel your pain! I have never had someone get under my skin til her. I dont get it… but whatever. I have been dealing with this for almost 8 yrs. She is younger than me but the oldest girl in her fam. Even admitted to me being “jealous” and totally baggin on my dress recently. Whatever! I just plan my wedding and do not barely talk to her,def. not any wedding details after all the bashing.

Post # 12
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Riverview:  Now that’s the most immature crap I have read of on this board — by far, your SIL has 2 year olds beat!

 

At the next function, I’d sit down with her and the photo album, point to the space where you are supposed to be in the picture and say, “Oh, look, and there’s me….There’s me again…and again….” I’d do it as if I’m insane and I really see it. If someone happens to join you and points out that you are not in the pictures, smile and say, “Sure I’m am, but SIL thought photoshopping me out would make it so that I really wasn’t.”  Keep smiling….pretend it’s not a big deal. Because, after all, you wouldn’t even hurt a fly….

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