- 8 years ago
Okay dear hive. After more than a year of planning, I REALLY need a good vent (hopefully the hate(bridezilla)-mail won’t be too bad ). Sorry in advance for the length.
When I first got engaged, my Maid/Matron of Honor and I were already talking about what I wanted to do for my bachelorette. She knows me very well and has been really excited about planning this for me. I’m usually a low-key person and we were planning for a two-day event in our local city, which included staying overnight (so we wouldn’t have to worry about having to drive back).
When my Maid/Matron of Honor met with the girls, they thought it’d be too expensive, so we dropped day two from plans. I was completely okay with that, and my Maid/Matron of Honor and I agreed that we’d just do day two on our own time. She had researched hotels and got a nice rate for one room (which was to be split 4 or 5 ways) but they all agreed to search for a lower rate.
When my Maid/Matron of Honor later asked if they had found anything the response was that they hadn’t and said we’d be staying at one of the girls’ apartment instead. It would have been okay if she lived in the city, but she didn’t. Instead, they suggested taking a cab from the girl’s apartment to the city and another one back at the end of the night (which would probably amount to little less than splitting a room in the first place!). Not to mention, we’d probably have to spend the night on the floor, and that’s something my Maid/Matron of Honor and I don’t want to do.
What pushed me, my Maid/Matron of Honor, and even my Fiance over the edge was when one of the girls completely changed the plans for the night – even though my Maid/Matron of Honor is the one in charge of planning it – and sent it to everyone. I’m very upset about the whole thing because this is something that it’s very important to me and been looking forward it for over a year. I’m more than willing to pay my own way (even though my Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t really want to), which puts the room at only $26 per person (and even if I don’t pay for the room, it’d only be $33).
I understand not wanting to spend a large amount of money. I’m completely okay with it, as well as paying my own way. What really upsets me is that one girl completely hijacked the planning from my Maid/Matron of Honor without even asking me what I wanted and is turning the whole event into completely into what she wants.
I’m seriously considering calling the whole thing off, planning it with my Maid/Matron of Honor and then invite them. If they want to come to any part of it -dinner, dancing, staying overnight, or two or all three- they are more than welcome.
Has anyone been in this situation? What did you do?