(Closed) venting bout my e-ring

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I don’t get it. I know it isn’t the exact one that you picked out, but maybe that one was out of your FI’s price range or maybe the stones weren’t as nice. I think your ring is beautiful, and if it were me, I would be happy with it simply because my Fiance picked it out.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

it is beautiful! why do you hate it?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My fiance bought me a ring that was just tooooo flashy for me. I asked him to return it. He was CRUSHED but he did it because I told him it wasn’t me and it was too big. He realized that the ring was crazy out of proportion for my fingers. I picked out a couple rings and he picked one out of those. I love my new ring. It is still pretty big but not too big. I don’t know what kind of ring you wanted but is it possible for him to exchange it? If not I am very sorry but your ring is beautiful.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

@M.G: It seems like you wanted something a little less flashy then? Since you will be picking out your band yourself, maybe you can convince him that the ring he got you is just too special to wear all of the time. You can wear it on special occasions, like when you go out together, but not for everyday. Unless you would feel comfortable asking him if it would be okay to exchange it; maybe for a set of rings that is more you? You don’t need to tell him that the set is more you.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

M.G.- I think your ring is beautiful, but if its not you its not you.  I wouldn’t want to wear something that I didn’t like every day just because someone gave it to me.  Think about it, if your mom gave you something you didn’t like, wouldn’t you tell her?  Have you talked to your FH about this at all?  Maybe just explain to him that you thing its gorgeous, but its just not your style.  You don’t have to tell him that you don’t like it, just tell him that you want something that suits your personality.  

I think that you deserve to be happy with your ring, just be sensitive to your FH’s feelings when explaining this to him.  Maybe get the diamonds from your band made into another piece of jewelry that you would wear…

Good luck 🙂

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@M.G: I know how you feel. My fiance even took me to pick out a diamond we both liked and the band I liked. The diamond was the same, but the band was majorly altered! I have these uncontrollable surges of disgust for it! But I mostly think it’s ok. I know my fiance will be sad and mad if I tell him I want to change it. I am gonna try to suck it up just to not hurt his feelings. In your case, maybe pick out a wedding set rather than a band and see how he reacts to changing out the diamond. I’ve also heard some people turn the original setting into a band (whether or not it’s the wedding band or just another ring). Good luck!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Some perfectly wonderful men really don’t understand how personal jewelry can be. They think that because they are the ones giving the ring, it should reflect *their* tastes, and often more bling is better, etc. It’s not your fault or his that you don’t like the ring, but you also shouldn’t have to pretend to love it forever. I think you should let him know — gently. Just make fun of yourself a little, like, “I don’t know if I have a big enough personality to wear a ring like this!” And then ask for something simpler using the same center stone he chose. Praise the center stone if you do like it.

It’s really tough because it’s such a huge gift — I wish these wonderful guys would *pay attention* when their ladies indicate a preference! But ah, well.

Good luck!

And, like everyone else, I think it is a pretty ring and you have a pretty hand to wear it –but you should love your ring, not the Bees!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

Can you have it taken to a jeweler and perhaps made into a solitaire and then the surrounding diamonds made into a wedding band?

By The Way, I love the ring.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Aww that is hard.  Let me just say that your ring is stunning… but if it’s not your style then break the news lightly.  I think he would want you to have exactly what you love.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m sympathetic towards people who don’t like their e-rings, I’ve gotten plenty of ugly jewlery from my FH so I knew I had to be specific about what I wanted. This is a ring you will wear for the rest of your life, you should be happy with it. A friend of mine got engaged and she was over the moon but her ring was UGLY. It had a giant diamond on it but the band was just as thick and really bulky. She’s just a tiny thing. When she vented to me about it I tried to be positive to her but yea it just was not good. She finally got up the courage to tell her FH about it and he was very receptive, he said the only ring he ever noticed was his moms and so he tried to model it after that. They ended up getting her a new one with a smaller diamond and more delicate band, he also ended up saving about 3k compared to the old ring. She is much happier. Can you just bring it up to your FH?

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you don’t mind me asking…what don’t you like about it?

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Maybe mention that you want something with a simpler band because you’re worried about losing one of the melee stones. Tell him you want to be able to wear it all the time and you feel like you have to take off your current one in order to keep it safe.

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