(Closed) VENTING for November brides

posted 6 years ago in November 2012
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@starlight1222: Hope FI’s family works things out, family drama is the worst. I’d be frustrated with your friends too, sounds like they are being very selfish!!

I’ve vented about this in a seperate post but I’ll vent here because I’m still so mad…my dads Girlfriend bought the SAME dress as Future Mother-In-Law, the SAME dress that Future Mother-In-Law bought 5 months ago and spent money on alterations on.

I TOLD dads Girlfriend it was the same dress BEFORE she made the final purchase and she still bought it anyways. She isn’t willing to buy another dress and Future Mother-In-Law is standing firm that its her dress and she isn’t going shopping for another and I don’t blame her! dads Girlfriend is just being spiteful because I have a better relationship with Future Mother-In-Law that I do with her. 

Many suggested Future Mother-In-Law should just wear the dress to the rehearsal dinner to make Girlfriend look foolish but our rehearsal is pretty casual so it wouldn’t work. i’ve been BEGGING dads Girlfriend to buy a new dress, she’s being really rude and disrespectful!!

Thats my big vent! Other than that my only other frustration is our officiant not getting back to us but she is a county judge and as friend of FI’s and I know she’ll be there and everything will be fine, I just hate that we haven’t talked yet.

and I want to sleep…I am dealing with horrible insomnia!!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@chickiebee:  I would un-invite dad’s girlfriend if she refused to buy a new gown, I’m not a bitch normally but for this situation I would have to be. She is beyound rude to have purchased the same dress knowing that you Future Mother-In-Law had already bought said gown. She did it knowing a KEY member of the wedding party was wearing that dress. I don’t know how you feel about dads Girlfriend, but she is not a KEY person in the wedding party with regards to family blood ties.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am totally on the same page. My vent: 

My Fiance also didn’t care about details of the wedding until now. The thing that is pissing me off the most is that we “finalized” the guest list a long time ago. I asked him a million times before I sent off invites, “is this everyone?” He brushed me off and said, “Yes.” Then, as I am compiling invites and writing names on envelopes, he comes up with an 10 extra people he “forgot”. This is after I already mailed out the invites for my side. Additionally, people from his side want to “add” their kids, and he wants to let them. Meanwhile, I have shot down every request for people to add people on my side. Plus, these kids are 11 and 13 so it’s not like they can’t watch themselves. I don’t even know why they NEED to be there…Fiance says he barely knows them. Whatever.The reason this is so stressful is venue capacity, and partially budget. I overshot by 30 people when I sent the invites and a lot of people I thought “definitely would not show up” as the wedding is out of town RSVPed “yes”! I guess a weekend trip to Santa Barbara is tempting…haha.  I guess it’s just hard when I have established a system for the last 10 months, while no one cared about it, and now it’s too late to change things. Future Father-In-Law actually criticized me for working on things too early. If I left it up to him and Fiance, we’d be having a BBQ in the backyard! 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@mishagirls79:  she’s been dads Girlfriend for 17 years. Uninviting her would devistate my dad. For all intents and purposes she is stepmom, just missing the piece of paper to legally make her dads wife. I have decided though that if she does wear the same dress that she will not be seated with immediate family during the ceremony, nor will she be introduced with dad at the reception. She will be reduced to just being a ‘guest’ 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@chickiebee:  Get some melatonin. It is the only thing keeping me sane lately. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@sbottiani:  We had about 15 people that we swore would say no, say yes…it killed out budget. I feel your pain!!!! and of course all of them were people Fiance added except for 2…go figure!

and I’ll try the melatonin, thanks!!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Sorry to hear you are having problems. Unfortunately so am I!

1. FI’s entire family are kicking up a stink because his mum isn’t invited even though he hasn’t spoken to her in a couple of years. Future Father-In-Law and one Future Brother-In-Law threatened not to come but apparently are now. Future Father-In-Law still hasn’t sent his RSVP back. Fiance is waiting to see what happens for his birthday at the end of the month and if they don’t contact him he’s going to tell them they aren’t invited anymore. FI’s Gran got upset about being torn between her daughter and grandson. I said it doesn’t matter just be there for your grandson. I’ve never felt the urge to punch an elderly woman until then.

2. My sister/MOH is being a total flake. She hasn’t bought her plane tickets. Says she’ll buy them the day before she is meant to come. Then I asked her to cover up her unshaved armpits and legs (mainly because I was pissed about her lack of interest) and she got shitty at me. So I said either cover up or send my $250 back that I spent on her very expensive outfit. She also hasn’t sent back her RSVP.

3. This is my fault but I only got my dress yesterday. It’s my third one because I hated the first 2 after I got them. Love this one but it needs a bit of altering.

4. Fiance is also annoyed at my aunt because she was getting really controlling about some of the wedding details. I had to remind him she’s the only one that’s really been helping. Yes she is being bossy but at least she’s interested in our day.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

oh my…family drama sucks for all of us. Why do weddings turn people into total assholes?

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My vent:

Just because you aren’t able to make it to our wedding doesn’t make it ok to “give” your invitation to someone else!  I have some friends that I’d like to put in those seats!!!!

Read the damn directions on the rsvp cards people!

On the topic of rsvps, that pretty little envelope that has my address and a stamp on it?  USE IT.

What the hell does “maybe” mean?!?!?!  Do you realize that I am PAYING to have you there?  If you decide a week before the wedding that you can’t find a flight or a hotel room that suits your wants needs, I’m still stuck paying for your ass!

 

That felt good!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

boy to i feel your pain,ive vented another post too so ladiesbare with  cuz i think my FH is tired of hearing me..lol

my sister MOH who might i add really nominated herself the title and i caved has done nothing,i meannothing and as oftoday she doesnt have a dress because the dress i made hre buy 3 weeks ago  she says now doesn’t fit..really 3 weeks ago

my other sister doesnt have shoes and this big foot b**ch wears a size 12 so we have been to like 6 stores and cant find shoes.

my daughter has gained weight since i bought her dress like last year so i had to get her a new one tonight,mind you all my bridal party had to do wa sbuy a black dress.

we also have 2 grooms men who dont have shirts(they r just wearing shirt and tie)

the thing thta bothers me the most is how everyone is making these stupid bridezilla jokes and im thinking what the hell is so funny i have cursed anyone out yet they  just  dont know im not a bridezilla yet.

oh and my mom who just moved to penn last month(and i begged her not to might i add) just called the other day to tell me she is broke and just cant make it.WHAT? I love my mom but what the hell,so lets minnus airfare from the budget..sorry that was mean but damn.

i tell you what if i could rewind to last year my wedding party would be totally different,sorry so long ladies,but i do feeling better each time i talk about though 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@starlight1222:  You’re so right with number one.  I haven’t talked to too many brides about this, but at the beginning of planning, my fiance said to me, “I don’t really care about anything except the ceremony.”  That turned out to be completely false, haha.  He’s had an opinion about literally everything except the color of the bridesmaids’ dresses.  It drives me crazy, but at least they care 🙂

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

How about this…I made Fiance a VERY short list of to-do’s, like literally 10 things that I needed him to do. I got his groomsman their gifts after a short discussion on what we should get them but told him he had to get them their thank you cards and one for his parents too. So what does he do. he goes to the $1 store and buys an 8 pack of blank cards for $1 and says I’ll just write a note inside. Seriously? I spent hours searching for just the right cards for my girls and my parents and personalized girfs for every single person in the wedding and he spends a whole $1 on an 8pack of blank 3×5 cards???? They don’t even say thank you on them…and they are green with yellow flowers…our colors are red and white…

oh. my. god!!!

 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Hang in there everyone! I think the venting helps! Haha.

1. Two of my my friends from high school didn’t RSVP. I sent them each a quick text message a few days after the deadline. Still haven’t heard a peep from one of them. The other responded immediately: “When is it again? My husband has hunting season.” I politely responded with the date and location and then didn’t get anything else back from her. I guess I’m marking both of them as no-shows since they live out of town.

2. I got a call on Tuesday from a DJ. Conversation went like this:

DJ: Hi, my name is _____. You might not remember by I met you at a bridal show back in February. I was just calling to follow up with you to see if you’ve found a DJ yet.

Me: (Seriously, he’s following up now?! He must not know our wedding is in less than 3 weeks) Um… yeah. We booked someone back in the spring.

DJ: Is your wedding still on Nov. 3?

Me: (Wow, he does know that our wedding is really soon… weird.) Yes.

DJ: Okay, well just keep us in mind in case something goes wrong with your original DJ.

Me: (WTF! Is this guy serious?) Well, we’re just going to hope that doesn’t happen at this point.

DJ: Yeah, well you never know. These things happen.

Me. (ARE YOU SERIOUS!!!!!?????? ARE YOU TRYING TO GIVE ME A HEART ATTACK??????!!!!!!) *crickets* (I honestly can’t remember how I ended the phone call, I was polite, but fuming!)

3. My payment to the caterer is due today, but they still haven’t given me the final total even though they’ve had my final numbers for almost a week. Should I just tally that up for you and send you a check for what I think the total is???

4. I’m really not sure how some of my vendors stay in business since they don’t seem to know how to add. I’ve gotten totals from several vendors and when I’ve looked over the numbers, they forget to add in some major part of the total. Good thing I’m watching out for their bottom line.

5. I got a list of the people who have booked in our room blocks and my parents weren’t on the list. The hotel had their reservation, but the person who my mom talked to when she booked didn’t get them associated with our block and only gave them the discounted rate for 1 of the nights that they are staying. Straighted out now.

Nothing major, but I feel like I’m trying to plan a wedding and keep my vendor’s businesses running smoothly. I’m not sure what they would do if I (or my DOC) wasn’t keeping them in line.

 

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

i hope i dont overuse this thread but it seems each day brings  more BS my “super awesome” MOH-SISTER has just informed me this morning that she cant attend my bacholerette party( we were doing a dinner cruise $30each) because she will be moving on the nov 1st and its nov3 and she will be really short on money.excuse me when else can we do it not during the week and people work im getting married nov 10,she just says “well yall can go without me”…really? is that not selfish. now if this was some kind of moving emergency i would understand but she just moved like 2 months ago now shes moving again..dang

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