- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2018
Sigh… I tried to let this one go… but I’m still digesting and need some insight.
My fiance (originally from the UK) and I have decided to get married at city hall and celebrate with a picnic. In addition, we have invited close friends and family to the UK for a week long trip, starting in London and concluding with a dinner with my fiance’s family and friends in the Derbyshre peak district!
We were originally going to only invite two friends to City Hall. Then, of course, our families felt left out. So now, we are up to the following list:
- My mom, dad, sister, and brother, and two best friends.
- His mom, sister, and niece.
- The photographer.
- And my mom’s brother and his family are coming just to see us afterwards and have dinner with us in North Beach.
As some may know, only 6 guests are allowed, so we’ve let everyone know that only parents and the photographer will actually attend the ceremony, which is about 7 minutes. Everyone is ok with this. Yay!
Here comes the trouble. I have invited one of my friends and her husband to the party and to the UK. Each time I talk about our plans, she brings up the fact that she may be pregnant, or other plans in her life. Recently, she told me she might not come to my bachelorette because she is turning 30 and might have a birthday party that weekend. This made me sad, but not a big deal.
This weekend, she called to share her frustrations with me.
She started off saying she hasn’t booked a flight to the UK because she’s not invited to City Hall.
She felt I was a big part of her wedding, and she feels left out.
In addition, she feels left out not being a part of planning the bachelorette.
I apologized that she felt hurt, and I meant it. However, all of these factors are due to me wanting an easy, go with the flow, no worries wedding! The whole idea was to make it small and fun. Now I feel sad and guilty.
What should I do?