Venting – House guests and bad timing

posted 1 month ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

That sounds awful and if I were your guest and knew, I’d likely get a hotel and give you a break. I’d hate to pile on because I didn’t know. 

My coworker just had a college friend visit. And being her husband (invited) brother in law and his wife (not so much). They put their foot down at five dogs. Then the friends decided they’d rather stay in the guest room than in the RV they cane in. What fun. Some people really have stones, don’t they? Also my parents are coming to visit new baby in November while our house is getting an addition and my mom seems to think she will be staying in it in the meantime. The whole point of the addition is that we don’t have the space.  I’ll have to clear things up soon with regard to that.

Post # 3
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Busy bee

Do NOT give a second thought to taking the alone time and space you need to recharge. You are NOT obligated to entertain or play tour guide. If I were your husband’s family, I would feel awful knowing my visit was causing you undue stress. If they are decent folks, they’ll understand your need for self-care this weekend. And if they don’t understand, screw ‘em. 

Here’s to you taking care of YOU. 👍

Post # 4
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8323 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Here is my baby Cora, hope she helps 

leebee333 :  

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d explain how your travel got all messed up and that you have work to do, but stress that you’d like to see them and commit to dinner/drinks/dessert with them after their day of sightseeing.  Good luck!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

JiminyCricket :  This is an excellent idea.

OP- these people are adults. They can come up with something to do on their own for a day (or your husband might be able to make a few suggestions for them) and then you can do something in the evening after you’ve gotten some work done and had a bit of time to decompress.

You don’t need to take this additional thing on your shoulders when you’re already so drained and depleted. It’s possible to honor your need for space/work/decompression in a gracious way.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

Make sure to be kind to yourself and take care of you! 

My husband has been in this situation a lot. He would have family come in to town or I would and he used to work 80 hours a week. He would only get Sundays to hang out with them and I would entertain them, sight see, etc. Both families totally understood that he was busy and understood he needed to get to bed on time and was at work all day. I wouldn’t sweat it! 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

A seal or a cat? leebee333 :  hope you’ll feel better soon!

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