Post # 1
Hi bees, I need some positive energy from somewhere please!
for context – I had to testify this past week in court relating to a traumatic experience so my week was horrible and awful and upsetting. Yesterday I had to travel for work and it was a TOUGH day, and only got to my hotel almost at midnight. Woke up to find out my flight home was cancelled and I was rebooked for a flight close to midnight which means I’ll get home in the morning hours tomorrow.
At home, my husband’s aunt and uncle (whom I don’t know well) are visiting us. I leave again for another work trip on Monday. I feel obligated to spend tomorrow with them but I have a lot of work to do before Monday and I am just feeling so drained and tired, I can’t imagine having to play tour guide tomorrow. They will be there when I get back on Thursday and then they will leave later that evening. All in all I will see very little of them, and I feel bad that what they do see of me will be, let’s say, not my best self.
It’s not their fault but their timing sucks! I don’t feel like dealing with guests at all. My husband has been such a trooper finding amazing ways to support me and do all the prep etc for them (and is showing them around today) but he actually also has a stressful time at work at the moment, so in all in all the timing of this is just terrible. Normally we both (him especially) really really enjoy entertaining guests but this time, not so much!
Anyway, please can someone send puppy pictures or their worst houseguests stories or anything to cheer me up? I’m stuck at an airport, tired, cranky and teary. Thanks bees.
Post # 2
That sounds awful and if I were your guest and knew, I’d likely get a hotel and give you a break. I’d hate to pile on because I didn’t know.
My coworker just had a college friend visit. And being her husband (invited) brother in law and his wife (not so much). They put their foot down at five dogs. Then the friends decided they’d rather stay in the guest room than in the RV they cane in. What fun. Some people really have stones, don’t they? Also my parents are coming to visit new baby in November while our house is getting an addition and my mom seems to think she will be staying in it in the meantime. The whole point of the addition is that we don’t have the space. I’ll have to clear things up soon with regard to that.
Post # 3
Do NOT give a second thought to taking the alone time and space you need to recharge. You are NOT obligated to entertain or play tour guide. If I were your husband’s family, I would feel awful knowing my visit was causing you undue stress. If they are decent folks, they’ll understand your need for self-care this weekend. And if they don’t understand, screw ‘em.
Here’s to you taking care of YOU. 👍
Post # 4
Here is my baby Cora, hope she helps
Post # 5
I’d explain how your travel got all messed up and that you have work to do, but stress that you’d like to see them and commit to dinner/drinks/dessert with them after their day of sightseeing. Good luck!
Post # 6
JiminyCricket : This is an excellent idea.
OP- these people are adults. They can come up with something to do on their own for a day (or your husband might be able to make a few suggestions for them) and then you can do something in the evening after you’ve gotten some work done and had a bit of time to decompress.
You don’t need to take this additional thing on your shoulders when you’re already so drained and depleted. It’s possible to honor your need for space/work/decompression in a gracious way.
Post # 7
- Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse
Make sure to be kind to yourself and take care of you!
My husband has been in this situation a lot. He would have family come in to town or I would and he used to work 80 hours a week. He would only get Sundays to hang out with them and I would entertain them, sight see, etc. Both families totally understood that he was busy and understood he needed to get to bed on time and was at work all day. I wouldn’t sweat it!
Post # 8
A seal or a cat? leebee333 : hope you’ll feel better soon!