(Closed) Venting! LDR are so hard :(

posted 7 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I’m in a LDR now.  For the first year, we lived in the same city, but I had to move 2 hours away for my job.  Our situation isn’t so bad because we still see each other every weekend, but it’s still hard because we saw each other and slept together every day for a year.  We’ll be in a LDR until 2013.  I can’t wait until we relocate together!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@mslily20: (: Aw first of all.. good luck!

Second, you guys have been apart for 3 months? Or youve just strted dating 3 months ago?

Lastly, Omg LDR is incredibly hard!!! Ive been doing it for TWO years.. *gasp*- And Ive seen him maybe just a few times ( only when either of us can visit which lasts maybe a few days then bak to good ol’ LD). But if you lov each other, then no matter how long or how distant it will work out and pass by SUPEr quickly! just be patient, try to find activities, make sure to talk to him as much as you can. It gets easier with time, and youll end up seeing him sooner then you think.(:

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

I’ve been in an LDR for about a year and four months and I’ve only seen Fiance a few times. It is so hard ๐Ÿ™ I was supposed to move down by sometime next year but I wouldn’t finish school in time so I’m stuck up here ๐Ÿ™ But I do get to see him for Christmas ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We were in an LDR for 4 years.

I empathize that it’s hard! It does suck to feel lonely. But in retrospect, we are such whole, independent people from doing it, and it made us closer and stronger rather than pulled us apart. I know that if we were in your situation, my husband would feel the same as your SO and Id have to agree with him. The hassle and cost of moving twice in 6 months would be enough to make me stick it out! We coped with the LDR by texting all the time, carving out time to talk before bed, visiting once every three months or so, and generally keeping each other involved in our lives even though we were on opposite ends of the country.

Good luck with the moves!

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Good luck!! I know it’s hard to contemplate at the beginning, but you just have to keep the energy there and keep trucking. We’ve been in an LDR for 4.5 years (our entire relationship), because we started dating RIGHT before I moved away for grad school. It’ll ultimately be 5 years before we get married and move to the same city.  

It’s a challenge, but do-able. For the many, many downsides, it is nice in that you make sure your relationship is founded on common values and a real affection alongside physical attraction and gives you a chance to develop independent interests. 

 

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