Post # 1
My Fiance and I have been officially together for about 3 months. He lives in Atlanta and I live in New York City. Our relationship has been progessing quite quickly and we have already discussed moving in together, marriage, and children.
The problem is that our move is on hold because of his job. He’s currently going for a promotion at work and it’s basically his dream and the career he will retire from and provide a stable life for us. We were planning on me moving down around the end of January – February. But the process of starting this job is so long.
He will have a second round of interviews February. Then he has to wait a couple of weeks to start his training which will probably not start til about April. The training is going to last anywhere for 2-3 months! In a NEW city! After he’s done with his training then they will tell him where they will permenantly relocate him for the job.
Ugh! I don’t know how patient I can be. I’m not saying I will leave him because of this, but I think I want to move down in February still. He says if I do that when he goes away for his training I will have to come back to NY and stay with my parents until he officially starts his job in the new city and then I can join him there.
It’s such a mess and it’s so hard to deal with. He’s the perfect man for me and I love him greatly. I’m just extremely impatient. I currently live in NYC by myself and feel extremely lonely. I have read multiple post about LDRs and of couples who have been in LDRs for over a year. I try to tell myself it’ll only 5-7 months before we are together, maybe I can do it. But I just don’t want to be alone for another 5-7 months 🙁
How did you cope? How long were you in a LDR before being able to move in together?
Post # 3
I’m in a LDR now. For the first year, we lived in the same city, but I had to move 2 hours away for my job. Our situation isn’t so bad because we still see each other every weekend, but it’s still hard because we saw each other and slept together every day for a year. We’ll be in a LDR until 2013. I can’t wait until we relocate together!
Post # 4
@mslily20: (: Aw first of all.. good luck!
Second, you guys have been apart for 3 months? Or youve just strted dating 3 months ago?
Lastly, Omg LDR is incredibly hard!!! Ive been doing it for TWO years.. *gasp*- And Ive seen him maybe just a few times ( only when either of us can visit which lasts maybe a few days then bak to good ol’ LD). But if you lov each other, then no matter how long or how distant it will work out and pass by SUPEr quickly! just be patient, try to find activities, make sure to talk to him as much as you can. It gets easier with time, and youll end up seeing him sooner then you think.(:
Post # 5
I’ve been in an LDR for about a year and four months and I’ve only seen Fiance a few times. It is so hard 🙁 I was supposed to move down by sometime next year but I wouldn’t finish school in time so I’m stuck up here 🙁 But I do get to see him for Christmas 🙂
Post # 6
We were in an LDR for 4 years.
I empathize that it’s hard! It does suck to feel lonely. But in retrospect, we are such whole, independent people from doing it, and it made us closer and stronger rather than pulled us apart. I know that if we were in your situation, my husband would feel the same as your SO and Id have to agree with him. The hassle and cost of moving twice in 6 months would be enough to make me stick it out! We coped with the LDR by texting all the time, carving out time to talk before bed, visiting once every three months or so, and generally keeping each other involved in our lives even though we were on opposite ends of the country.
Good luck with the moves!
Post # 7
Good luck!! I know it’s hard to contemplate at the beginning, but you just have to keep the energy there and keep trucking. We’ve been in an LDR for 4.5 years (our entire relationship), because we started dating RIGHT before I moved away for grad school. It’ll ultimately be 5 years before we get married and move to the same city.
It’s a challenge, but do-able. For the many, many downsides, it is nice in that you make sure your relationship is founded on common values and a real affection alongside physical attraction and gives you a chance to develop independent interests.