(Closed) Venting on Weddingbee so I don’t do it in real life! :)

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

It’s a little rude.

Alot of people would tell you that you get “one” day, not any of the time around it, but I get it, your wedding might seem kinda anticlimatic the weekend after hers.  I’d be mad but I’m assuming that there are reasons (maybe out of her control) why she wants to have it on that particular date. 

If I were you I’d just make sure mine was way more fun 🙂

Post # 4
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206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You are not overreacting. I would be extremely upset. Why on earth would she have hers the weekend before yours?! I mean, even if it was three weeks in between that would be different. Did you find out about this on Facebook or has she talked to you yet?

Post # 7
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Uh, does she realize that is a little soon? And I don’t see how it’s ever okay to do that to family. I think it’s rude. But, if it’s reality I guess you just have to suck it up because some people won’t get that. :/

Post # 8
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376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Maybe she hasn’t reserved a venue and just picked a date? If she doesn’t have a venue yet she may not have her wedding then. Maybe she announced a date because EVERYONE asks when your date is even if you have only been engaged a matter of hours. I really don’t get that. You don’t have a date until you have a venue. Anyway, you may want to ask if she has a venue yet because it could be a lot of worry over nothing.

Post # 10
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2790 posts
Sugar bee

@brideatbeach: Do you have a lot of guests coming in from out of town that the two of you share? I would be pretty miffed if my cousin did that as well. If everyone is local I think that it is doable but if there is a lot of Out of Town guests then that forces them to choose which is extremely rude. I’m sorry she clearly doesn’t get it. 🙁 Obviously everyone knew when your wedding was so they have probably made plans for yours first anyways.

Post # 11
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1486 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Lame! Sorry.

Post # 12
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37 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Having a lot of guests have to do so much traveling so close together is really a bummer because some people might have to choose which one they can afford to go to 

BUT

to put a positive spin on this: are you sure she did this “on purpose”? Maybe she and her fiance really wanted to get married at a specific place, and really wanted a summer wedding, and maybe that was the only date that venue had left? Or something? I dunno, it might help to assume that she wasn’t trying to be malicious but you still have every right to feel annoyed about it!

Post # 12
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37 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Having a lot of guests have to do so much traveling so close together is really a bummer because some people might have to choose which one they can afford to go to 

BUT

to put a positive spin on this: are you sure she did this “on purpose”? Maybe she and her fiance really wanted to get married at a specific place, and really wanted a summer wedding, and maybe that was the only date that venue had left? Or something? I dunno, it might help to assume that she wasn’t trying to be malicious but you still have every right to feel annoyed about it!

Post # 13
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376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Girl, I feel your pain! My cousin got engaged an hour and a half after I did to a guy she had been dating for two weeks. FH and I have been dating for two and a half years. She did it at our family Christmas party, literally fifteen minutes after we arrived and everyone was gushing over my ring, my scrapbook proposal, and me and my fiance! I was pissed….. then she defriended everybody in the family on facebook because they were “more excited” about my wedding than hers, and they’ve always done more for me and bla bla bla. A week later she refriended all of us with no acknowledgment of what she had done. And, of course, the engagement is already off – has been off for about a month. Dumb dumb dumb.

Post # 14
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851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

WOW she really isnt giving herself much planning time.

These kind of things always make me question peoples sanity. HOW HORRIBLY SELFISH of her anyhow.

Post # 15
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7295 posts
Busy Beekeeper

yup, i totally get how you feel and don’t think that was too nice on her part.  use weddingbee as much as you need to vent!

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